# Biographical Subject Data

Occupation:
Lawyer (not yet licensced), work as Independent Contractor


Religion Now:
Church on Holidays; Interested in Eastern Religion


Other Languages:
Yes, Spanish; learned English as a second language


Religion Now:
Relgious Science (not Christian Science/Scientolog


Religion Then:
Christian (Pilgrim Holiness) Protestant Fundamentalist


Religion Now:
Non-denominational Christian/Science of the Mind


Religion Now:
Spiritual Being - created my own religion


Religion Now:
No particular religion -- extremely spiritual


Occupation:
Currently unemployed; spent 27 years in banking


Occupation:
Currently Unemployed, Formerly Emergency Room Physician


# Session Two Exit Questionnaire: Emotion

How do you feel?:
Have relived my life in a few hrs; I feel drained


How do you feel?:
Sad abt my experiences but glad to have lived them


How do you feel?:
Grateful to have a reason to recall these issues


How do you feel?:
Mixed emotions; ended on smtg I'd rather not think


How do you feel?:
Been able to address some personal issues here


How do you feel?:
Good because I could tell someone about my life


How do you feel?:
Confused thinking about bad memories; makes me …


How do you feel?:
Illuminating; got me in touch with my feelings


How do you feel?:
Opened up memories from the past; difficult ones..


# Session Two Exit Questionnaire

Comments:
Interesting; deep/probing into core morals/values


Comments:
stimulating, made me aware of where I am in my lif


Comments:
Very interesting, seemed to go by quickly


Comments:
took a long time to get to deep-seated, gut mems


Comments:
Re: time limit -- I talked as long as felt necess.


Comments:
most of them were easy to deal with, except…


Comments:
Dredging up these memories is challenging


Comments:
Couldn't come up with enough to talk about for 3 m


Comments:
Had to dig deep which has drained me emotionally


Comments:
tried not to be repetitive but some things were


Comments:
Questions were more intense than I anticipated


Comments:
Sometimes it is hard to pick a single memory


Comments:
hard to think about each memory and adhere to ...


Comments:
a few times I felt doubtful about answering the qu


Comments:
interesting that some of the isses overlapped


Comments:
retrieving some of these memories was gut wrenchin


Comments:
some of the questions seemed to elicit the same…


Comments:
hard because same memories brought up over again


# Rating Data

Other What?:
Didn't Return Property Without Prompting


Other What?:
Failed To Act On Knowledge With Bad Consequences


# Session Three Data

Frequency of Recollection:
As long as I continued to utilize that type of payment plan.

Now Other Choices:
I could have stayed home and not hang out with my friends.


Other Choices:
I could have been selfish and unreasonable and denied my boyfriend the assistance he required in caring for the children.

Frequency of Recollection:
quite often, of course I was in contact with the children on a regular basis for the next couple of years.

Ethical Definition:
ethical is a morally based code to live by. Rules of life,great expectations,guidlines,standards that cannot be measured or defined.


Other Choices:
I could have calmed down, talked or sought counseling


Whose Opinions:
I assumed stupidly that my wife wasn't aware of it, at least not that particular instance, that I wouldn't get caught- that's the only reason I didn't consider others' opinions

Ethical Definition:
as before- honesty means not deceiving others


Whose Opinions:
The women one might meet, or at least email or talk to on the phone as a direct result of these internet dating postings- at what point you might tell them the truth, if at all, about stuff you lied about or exaggerrated, and what their opinion's going to be about it


Whose Opinions:
The buyer and Paypal and ebay as a practical matter, in case it resulted in my getting kicked off eaby; i didn't expect anyone else to find out


Whose Opinions:
all those present and every guy who had been parodying the boy, as the word of my action spread, that was my purpose in doing it

Ethical Definition:
Adhering to standards of behavior regarding honesty and integrity commonly held by one's culture or society


Whose Opinions:
Hard to recall- I remember having some awareness of what others would think; most likely I was trying to impress someone, act tough in a very primitive way, can't recall who was present; no doubt I was a little nervous about possible negative reactions, censure too.


Now Wish Done Differently:
I just don't know- frankly it's a pragmatic matter- I have no problem then or now stealing from a fat, rich restaurant- it's a question of whether I could have gotten away with it; and of course I'll never know how $20k in 1972 dollars might have changed my life.

Whose Opinions:
My peers, friends to whom I knew I would tell the story- including the owner of the restaurant where I worked, who was also a friend of mine and rather amoral himself- he later went to federal prison for fraud.


Whose Opinions:
the surrounding people and the police officers


Whose Opinions:
my erx-wife, but as it turned out she was unaware of the situation until afterwards

Ethical Definition:
Having positive values such as honesty and integrity commonly held by one's culture or society


Other Choices:
I could have chosen not to have sex with the guy.

Now Other Choices:
I could have chosen not to have cheated on my fiance.  I could have chosen to be honest with him about the situation, and accepted the consequences.

Ethical Definition:
Ethical is when you try to do the right thing, no matter what.


Other Choices:
I could have tried to find someone else to help my friend.  Or I could have simply told her she would have to be on her own after she got settled in.

Frequency of Recollection:
It hasn't been a year yet.  But, I've only thought about it maybe once since it occurred.

Now Other Choices:
I could have discussed everything with my friend and worked out a plan before she arrived.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes.  I wish I'd spoken with my friend about her expectations and my expectations.

Whose Opinions:
My husband's opinion was pretty much the only one I considered, because I knew this decision would mean having less time to spend with him.  And since we only have one car, he would be left at home without transportation.

Ethical Definition:
Ethical means doing the right thing, regardless of what others think, do or say.


Other Choices:
I could have put some clothes in the layaway.  Or maybe looked for a better-paying job.

Frequency of Recollection:
I thought about it several times... maybe 8 or 9 times.  It was on my mind a lot.

Wish Done Differently:
I often wished I'd never made that decision.  I thought about it several times that year following the episode.

Whose Opinions:
I didn't consider anyone else's opinion.  If I had, I probably would not have made that same decision.

Ethical Definition:
An ethical person tries to do the right thing at all times.


Now Wish Done Differently:
I wish I could have been honest with my father and gotten him to give me permission to have the party.

Ethical Definition:
I think ethical means doing what's right, even if others don't agree.


Wish Done Differently:
Not once.  I knew I had done the right thing.

Ethical Definition:
Ethical means to do the right thing, regardless of other people's opinions.


Other Choices:
I didn't feel like I had many other options.  My parents were poor and the cost of the lipstick was more than the allowance I was receiving at the time.

Frequency of Recollection:
I thought about it several times... maybe 6 or 7 times.

Now Other Choices:
There was only one option.  I should have saved up enough money to buy the lipstick.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes.  I wish I hadn't taken the lipstick.

Ethical Definition:
Ethical means doing the right thing, regardless of the consequences and what other people think.


Now Other Choices:
I could have tried to talk to the woman about her situation to see if there was something more I could do to help her.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Haven't thought about it at all in the past year.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes.  I wish I would have invited the woman and her child to at least spend the night in my home.

Ethical Definition:
An ethical person always tries to do the right thing or to right a wrong if they can.


Other Choices:
I could have tried to force the father to help with my expenses.  Or I could have moved back home with my parents sooner than I did.

Frequency of Recollection:
I didn't think about it anymore after making the decision not to have the abortion.

Wish Done Differently:
The only thing I thought about was that I shouldn't have had sex before marriage.

Now Other Choices:
Not had sex before marriage.  But I now think everything worked out the way it was supposed to.

Whose Opinions:
My mother's opinion mattered most to me.  She didn't tell me not to have an abortion, but she let me know she would support whatever decision I made.

Ethical Definition:
I'm not sure of the dictionary definition, but I think an ethical person is one who believes in doing the right thing, regardless of the consequences.


Now Other Choices:
I mean could have had other options but,the CD was for her not me

Now Frequency of Recollection:
not the decision but the context,it often comes up


Now Other Choices:
really only one.Because I was about 8 or 10 years old


Frequency of Recollection:
only the year following,I thought about it a lot

Now Other Choices:
I probably could have forgiven him earlier,and not wait so long to call him

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Tons of times, since my dad is now living here with my sister.


Wish Done Differently:
a lot I think because I hurt my finger raelly bad


Now Other Choices:
could have said I was non-union,or waited


Now Other Choices:
paid another admission, come back at a later time


Other Choices:
I could have just ignored him,or got off another exit


Other Choices:
I could have chosen not to have input from the children, not to make it a democratic decision about the move.

Frequency of Recollection:
probably daily until the end of 1998 when my decision was proven to be the right one-200+ times?

Now Other Choices:
besides not including the children in the decision, I could have chosen not to move ( which would have been the wrong choice)

Whose Opinions:
mainly my ex-husband's, because it would dictate what we would be dealing with in the future, but also the courts and the various lawyers to a lesser extent

Ethical Definition:
knowing right from wrong and attempting to do right in any given situation


Frequency of Recollection:
many-probably daily while her toe was healing-perhaps 30 times?

Ethical Definition:
someone who is aware of what is right and  wrong  in any situation amd chooses to do right


Frequency of Recollection:
probably every time I saw my pets-scores of times, if not hundreds

Ethical Definition:
knowing right from wrong and choosing to do right


Whose Opinions:
my boss, co-workers and the owner of the ring


Frequency of Recollection:
just about every time I past that bench-probably dozens


Ethical Definition:
doing what you know is the right thing for your self and others


Ethical Definition:
someone who believes in doing the right thing at all cost


Ethical Definition:
being thruthful and fair also being considerate of others


Ethical Definition:
honest, fair, treat people like you want to be treated,  do what is right


Now Other Choices:
go to school, not to have gone with my friends

Ethical Definition:
someone who knows the difference from right or wrong and makes good judgements


Now Other Choices:
go out as friends only, not to go out at all, go with a group of people

Now Frequency of Recollection:
none, I was not engaged and deserved the right to see other people since I was so young

Now Wish Done Differently:
not really, I was young and wanted to see how I was treated by other guys.

Ethical Definition:
making sound decisions and doing things that were natural at the age I was


Other Choices:
Should have not got angry. Should have gone to the car with him and let him know I wasn't happy about his acting out in the store.  I could have asked him to think about what he did and we would talk about it at home.

Now Other Choices:
not to have been so stupid and angry at him, leave the store with him and go home, be calmer and just talked to him about what he did and why he shouldn't have acted that way.

Ethical Definition:
Someone who knows right from wrong and does the right thing.


Ethical Definition:
knowing right from wrong and acting upon them


Other Choices:
I could have not said anything. There were so many different things I could have done but others would not have given me the moral satisfication then the option I chose.

Frequency of Recollection:
None. It was something that I'd probably always do so it is not something to think about unless brought up in conversation.

Wish Done Differently:
none. I did the right thing. I don't even think about it.

Now Other Choices:
It was the only morally correct thing that should have been done.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
none. I knew I made the right choice in this matter.

Now Wish Done Differently:
no. I feel proud that I can stand up for what is right and not let others be hurt by dishonesty.

Whose Opinions:
I considered no one's opinions. It was the right thing to do.

Ethical Definition:
Someone who will do the right thing regardless of the consequences.


Other Choices:
I could have done a lot of different things. I admit to being selfish it making the choice I did.

Wish Done Differently:
A lot. That wa snot the right thing to do and I was fortunate not to hurt others or myself by that action.

Now Other Choices:
There are so many possible scenarios that I could have done but I chose the worst one.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Of course. That was immature of me to behave in such a manner detrimental to the well being of myself and others.

Ethical Definition:
One who makes the right decisions regardless.


Other Choices:
I could only have done one other thing, go with her. That would have been so wrong so I didn't.

Frequency of Recollection:
Many times until I realized that it was the right thing to do. It's unfortunate that I was in that situation but I'm proud of my actions.

Wish Done Differently:
A few times. After, I dissolved my relationship I thought that I might have missed up on a great girl just to do the right thing. But, morals always win out.

Now Other Choices:
That was the only right decision I could have made at the time and I did.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
none. I'm happy with my relationship with my wife and don't think about the past unless she asks me questions about it and the I have to think hard.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Absolutely not. I'm proud that I did make that decision even though I had to think about it.

Ethical Definition:
Ethical is doing the morally and legally right right thing


Other Choices:
I was emotionally attached and couldn't do all that much. There is one thing I could have done. Not see her

Frequency of Recollection:
Every day, I thought about it. 365 days out of the year. It was a huge embarrassment and it affected my life extremely.

Wish Done Differently:
I wished I thought things out before becoming emotionally involved with the girl. By then, It was too late and I had feelings for her that were so wrong. I am so ashamed for my actions. I will never let this happen again.

Now Other Choices:
I reall couldn't have done anything else at the time now that I'm really thinking about it. It was my first physical relationship and I was trapped by my hormones at the time.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Every once in a while it comes to mind. I think of my situation with my wife and sometimes fear the same thing will happen to me. It's disturbing.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes, very much so. It's an emotional scar that will forever haunt me. I can't even get it off my chest because I'm too embarrassed to talk to anyone about it. I'm hoping that by doing this study, I might relieve myself of this memory.

Whose Opinions:
At the time, I only considered my own. As the relationship grew, then I started thinking about how my family would handle this and it frightened me.

Ethical Definition:
Someono who bases all their decisions on a high moral and legal ground.


Other Choices:
There were many things I could have done at the time. Anger clouded reason and a fatal error was the result of my decision. I'll forever live to regret that day. Thinking about it brings back the pain.

Frequency of Recollection:
every hour of every day. I hated myself so much for being so stubborn and self centered in reasoning. To this day, it affects me on how I watch every thing I say and don't ever let anger get the best of me.

Wish Done Differently:
I always wish I made a different decision. I never stop wishing that I could change things if the clock got somehow turned back. It is a wrong that I'll never ever be able to right.

Now Other Choices:
I could have done almost anything differently but I didn't. Today, that will never happen. I will not be able to live with another death indirectly caused by me.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I always think about it. I feel the pain sometimes during a news story when someone accidently hits someone with a car and that other person dies. I feel the pain that the driver feels just as if it was me behind the wheel.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Absolutely. I never stop regretting it. The pain never really goes away, it just subsides for periods of time but always is there to haunt me.

Whose Opinions:
I just let my anger over take my senses. that never happens now.

Ethical Definition:
A person who always travels the high ground


Other Choices:
none. That was a poor decision on my part.

Frequency of Recollection:
all the time until I told my father about the situation. It bothered me continously

Wish Done Differently:
all the time. I wiished that I never did it but knew that I did.

Now Other Choices:
there are lots of things I could have done but didn't. Why? I'll never know but I'm glad I felt guilty because that allowed me not to repeat the same mistake twice.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
none. I made peace a long time agao on this issue.

Now Wish Done Differently:
yes. I wish that I just asked my father for the car instead of just taking it.

Whose Opinions:
I just did it without much thought figuring it was somehow ok at the time.

Ethical Definition:
An Individual who knows the difference between right and wrong and does what is right.


Ethical Definition:
ethical decisions are ones that do not hurt others well-being


Ethical Definition:
an ethical decision  does not hurt another in a uncaring manner


Ethical Definition:
being ethical is not hurting well-being of others


Ethical Definition:
an ethical decision is one where other's well-being is not endangered or hurt


Other Choices:
not to talk to him,  just drive properly and drop him off

Now Other Choices:
not talk to him, slowed down, not to get angry

Ethical Definition:
knowing what the right thing is to do in any given situations.


Whose Opinions:
no one's but my own, I was the one who had to live with it.


Other Choices:
I should have listened to myself and not had sex, I could of given up my baby for adoption but that was a definite no, I would have gone crazy,  I would never have forgave myself and not knowing where or how my baby was would eat at me everyday.  Lastly

Frequency of Recollection:
I thought about it every time I looked at my son for the entire year.

Wish Done Differently:
None, I felt I made the right decision and knew in my heart it was best this way.

Now Other Choices:
Give the baby up for adoption or have the baby.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I think about this at least once a month.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes, I wish I never would of had sex and listened to my inner voice.

Ethical Definition:
A person who knows the difference between right and wrong and knows what's best for those closely involved.


Other Choices:
I should of been honest and asked him, have my mom ask him herself

Now Other Choices:
not to talk about him, have mom talk to him herself,


Other Choices:
not to have taken the 2 items without paying for them.  Asked my mom if I could buy the 2 items.

Now Other Choices:
stayed with my mother & sister, not have stolen the 2 items, asked of money to buy the 2 items

Ethical Definition:
to know what the right thing is to do and have good common sense to know right from wrong


Other Choices:
Not to have gone, not have got chummy at all, asked my girlfriend's boyfriend to call and ask her to come along.

Now Other Choices:
Never have gone without my girlfriend or not have gone at all.

Ethical Definition:
someone who knows what the right thing is to do and make good decisions.


Now Wish Done Differently:
sure.  stood my ground, not try to fit in, and take the test on my own merits.

Ethical Definition:
taking right action  no matter what it looks like.


Now Wish Done Differently:
yes.  in addition to  the original action, i would have made a decision to actively protect myself and my children from this man.

Whose Opinions:
friends, family (including my children), law enforcement officials, and my own...

Ethical Definition:
deciding to perform right action at all times.


Ethical Definition:
doing what you know to be right when no one else sees the action.


Frequency of Recollection:
often.  we were all in the same social circle and it stayed fresh for a long time because everyone knew about it.

Wish Done Differently:
most of the them.  the novelty of the collective prank wasn't worth the embarrassment i caused my friend because of my participation , though it seemed like a good idea at the time.

Now Other Choices:
actually, the possibilities are endless.

Ethical Definition:
doing what you believe is right , with or without others' approval.


Frequency of Recollection:
many, because i felt i missed out on an experience of a lifetime.

Wish Done Differently:
whenever i found myself not being spontaneous enough, editing or second-guessing myself too much.

Now Other Choices:
again, the possibilities include things i'm not even aware of, starting with being adventurous though breeching my agreement, and going, or, just waiting until the end of the course and making arrangements to go then.  hindsight is well,  you know.

Now Wish Done Differently:
not done something different just been able to think and respond differently.

Whose Opinions:
the people who'd asked me to go with them, and the opinions of the ones i'd promised to help in my community by bringing this knowledge through,my eyes, to the world.

Ethical Definition:
being in integrity whether you want to or not.


Other Choices:
i could have ignored him;given him a consequence for his disrespect;handed him the check for his clothes and required an apology before i spoke to him again; simply told him that his manner was unacceptable and we'd  discuss it after school......how many

Frequency of Recollection:
i think of it often.  it gives me pause to reflect before speaking, after all, what's the rush?  better to wait than to say something you can't retract.

Wish Done Differently:
actually, i'm glad i did it then so i never have to do it like that again and we're still in this year.

Now Other Choices:
countless, but i think i already answered this a few questions ago, yes, in part 2. i could have done what many parents do, simply smacked him,owing to the whole testosterone-versus-estrogen-thing. there are so many things i'm aware as a parent that i'm

Now Frequency of Recollection:
i haven't needed to think about it; it's served its purpose

Now Wish Done Differently:
nah.experience is still the best teacher.

Whose Opinions:
my son's.  what must he think of me that he was able to speak to me in that manner?  and if so (disrespect), what would

Ethical Definition:
following your first mind while leaving room for good intentions to be corrected when they cause any kind of harm.


Ethical Definition:
correct behavior according to society's needs


Whose Opinions:
the girl who had given me too much cash -- but to be more exact -- i considered her feelijngs not her opinions


Now Wish Done Differently:
no -- it was funny - i just reacted very innocently to the discovery i'd made an error -- there was no guilt until after


Whose Opinions:
my friends -- although i was probably being harder than they would have been --


Whose Opinions:
the person that i was talking about -- i knew what his opinion would be but did it anyway

Ethical Definition:
correct behavior according to society's needs,standards


Now Wish Done Differently:
no - it was fun and i didn't get caught but i wouldn't do it now...i don't eat sugar anymore...ha

Whose Opinions:
my co-horts -- since we were in it together and both had to add to the pot


Ethical Definition:
shared good behavior according to society --


Whose Opinions:
i didn't consider 'opinions' only reactions -- i wanted to make my friends laugh -- only concerned with peers


Whose Opinions:
only the people i was involved with -- producer and friend -- producer won


Ethical Definition:
i have to say here that there are 2 notions of 'ethical' -- personal ethics and societal -- when i rate myself a 7 that is according to society -- on a personal level i give myself a 10


Now Other Choices:
3 -- i could have been angry, hurt or forgiving

Ethical Definition:
high as opposed to low behavior for the social norm


Other Choices:
let her play with us, encourage her to do it well so she didn't fall, be a good big sister and not a monster

Frequency of Recollection:
only 2 or 3 times -- it haunted me when i was older

Whose Opinions:
no one's -- but maybe my friend's -- maybe i was showing off

Ethical Definition:
a shared perception of 'right behavior' -- what is highest in society


Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes, of course. If I could rewrite my history I would.


Whose Opinions:
my boyfriends and my parents. my friends

Ethical Definition:
someone who chooses to do right even when it's difficult. one who doesn't lie and isn't dishonest.


Now Wish Done Differently:
yes, although I don't know exactly what I'd have done at that time.


Whose Opinions:
only my own. With a child to support I could not really consider anyone else's opinion.


Now Wish Done Differently:
I wish I'd been aware of the resources available for someone in my situation. Without that knowledge, I'd have done the same thing.


Ethical Definition:
making the right decision-good and bad choices


Whose Opinions:
I thought about ther girls and my opinion.


Ethical Definition:
doing the right thing and making good choices as far as right or wrong.


Ethical Definition:
doing the right thing making decsions between right and wrong.


Whose Opinions:
I considered the opinions of my host family, of the sponsoring scholarship organization in Australia and in America, my own Amercian family, and of Amercian family friends that had visited me in Australia.

Ethical Definition:
Ethical means doing what one believes to be right, whether or not it causesone  personal discomfort or difficulties.


Whose Opinions:
The opinions of my then-current and former bosses, the opinions of work colleagues, the opinions of potential future employers, the opinion of a dragon lady in City Hall who had had it out for my former boss, my department, and perhaps me for years--and wanted us all gone.

Ethical Definition:
Ethical means behaving according to what one belives to be right, regardless of personal consequences and risks.


Now Wish Done Differently:
not really.  I was very young, and that kind of mistake is easily made.  I do wonder about how my parents responded to my second-grade guilt, and whether or not their response to my guilty letter then would have made a difference in the way I blame myself about things in later life.

Ethical Definition:
Ethical means doing what one believes to be right, regardless of personal risks and consequences.


Whose Opinions:
I considered the opinions of the man I considered being intimate with, his wife, the opinions of others in the commune I lived with, God, a priest I consulted later but did not tell the whole truth to (I told him I was overwhelmed with a relationship.  I didn't tell him the marital status of the man I was involved with).  Remotely, I think I considered the potential opinions of my family and adult family friends--but I was in so deep in a relationship so traditionally disapproved of, I could never imagine speaking of it with them.

Ethical Definition:
Ethical means doing what you believe to be right, no matter the risks.  Funny, on reflection, I guess I thought--or convinced myself by 70s morals-- that that relationship was ethical at the time. ethical


Other Choices:
not applied for the job, mentioned my weakness as well as my strengths

Frequency of Recollection:
Have not really dwelled on this issue - I saw it more as a practical thing in order to be able to provide for my family.

Wish Done Differently:
At times I wonder if it makes any difference because wither I stretched to truth or not, I still do not have a steady good-paying job.  I suppose if I had gotten the job I would probably think about my decision more often.

Now Other Choices:
I could not chosen not to apply for the job, I would have explained more about my weakness instead of stretching and exaggerating my strengths.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Really have not thought about it, but i wonder which jobs I would've gotten n the past if I had stretched to truth a cit.

Ethical Definition:
ethical is doing the right thing in terms of providing for your loved ones who depend on you even if it means doing an apparently wrong thing


Other Choices:
work on another case, find part-time or temporary employment to supplement my teaching income.  I could have done any number of things, but we also needed the money, and even though our legal fees were neglible compare to what others would charge, we des

Frequency of Recollection:
Many times - we developed a sort of decision tree to make sure we collected money up front or at least partial payment to avoid being burned ever again by a non-paying client who used and manipulated our good-heartedness.  I would say at least 1-2 times

Wish Done Differently:
I try not to dwell on our mistake and inability to collect our hard-earned money from this client, but it was a learning experience and every case I understake always brings back memories of this particular client's behavior.  I would have done things di

Now Other Choices:
Could have demanded money up front before ANY work was done; could have refused to do any more work (but this would go against our basic belief that you cannot just abandon a client in the middle of the case); could have referred him to Legal Aid.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Memories of being stiffed out of out hard-earned work still bothers me - more the fact that I permitted it to happen because I let my feelings and compassion towards the client get in the way of good business sense.  The memory pops back and will keep po

Now Wish Done Differently:
Definitely - I would have acted more business-like and demanded, as do other atorneys and legal workers, payment up front for legal research and drafting of legal pleadings.

Ethical Definition:
to do the right thing - morally and legally


Other Choices:
I could have waited till I had enough money before I went into the store, I could have run home to borrow some money from my parents, I could have borrowed money from my friends, I could have walked out before the temptation go too strong.

Frequency of Recollection:
This was a distant memory that I don't recall on the spur of the moment - so I would say that I really dont even think about it.  However, as this was a life-altering experience I can say that it probably had a major influence on my life such that it cha

Wish Done Differently:
As with the previous answer - this is not something I tend to dwell on or think about constatnly.  If anything, the event changed the way I lived my life such that I do no consciously think about thi dilemma.

Now Other Choices:
I could have walked out of the store, I could have gone home to borrow some money from my parents, I could have borrowed some money from fiends.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
This is a deep memory which I do not share with anyone  - it is sort of a repressed memory.  I really hardly ever think about  it.

Now Wish Done Differently:
This event is not something that I dwell on, but yes I do wish that I had done things differently.  However, the negative emotional trauma had perhaps a positive influence and maybe it was a good thing to have happened at that particular point in time.

Whose Opinions:
my parents, my older brother, my teachers, my friends

Ethical Definition:
ethical is doing the right thing in the face of temptation


Frequency of Recollection:
365, almost around the clock. Maybe only several times a day toward the end of the year. It decreased very slowly after that and took about ten years for me to come to terms with it.

Wish Done Differently:
None. I made a tortuous decision, but the right one and the only one for my daughter and me.


Other Choices:
I could have kept the friendship from being physical. Not as an excuse, but as a warning to myself so that I understand why I allowed myself to be interested in this type of situation, I realize that I was having severe problems with depression and frust

Frequency of Recollection:
Every day for quite a few months, probably 3x a day or more the first couple of months; after that, at least a few times a week. I still think about it anytome I pass by places where we'd gone and past the schools where I attented and he still (I believe

Wish Done Differently:
Although there had been several times that I wished I'd done something different, I belive that I receive and learn more about making better choices in my life when I objectively evaluate the choices I've made, both the positive and the negative ones.  T

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Around 150-200, just as a guess. Probably more.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes, even though I feel pretty aware of understanding why and how it happened.

Whose Opinions:
My sisters, my closest friends, my children, other faculty members; another person I had begun to date before I ended this fling with the teacher.

Ethical Definition:
A value for the standard of ethics, i.e.,  a strictly objective judgement or observation in regard to viewing an action or behavior as "wrong" or "right". . ."appropriate" or "inappropriate"


Other Choices:
I could have studied more!  I was going through a very unmotivated time in my life, not paying as much attention to school as I should have. There were family problems and I started partying to escape the problems and my (then-undiagnosed) depression. I

Frequency of Recollection:
Every time I was in class-and then some.  Several times after school was over.  It still affects me; I've taken uncountable exams

Now Other Choices:
I could have asked for help.  I could have studied with my friends; not spent time at partys.  Confided in a teacher, parent of a friend, counselor. I just didn't know who I could turn to. I couldn't concentrate at all. Years later, I was diagnosed with

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Only since begining this research study.  It still has an impact on me, but for a while I'd forgotten the story and the origin of the impact.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes. I wish I'd been able to find a way to use more self-disciplin; perhaps escape from my problems through studying rather than goofing off.  It's taken me so long to learn how to be in "that" place.

Whose Opinions:
My teacher's!  My friends'  opinions-I believe that none of them would have cheated on any of their tests. My parents-Ididn't want to be punished (it would have been severe).


Other Choices:
One-I could have refrained from taking it!

Now Other Choices:
One! I could have chosen a different type of gift!

Now Frequency of Recollection:
A several; mostly because it was such a potentially big risk and not worth the chance of being found out, even though I am sure that if I'd asked the doctor for it and explained why, he'd not have had any problem with giving it to me

Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes, I wish I'd not have been too embarrassed to simply ask for it.

Whose Opinions:
Those I worked for and with; also, the recipient of the gag gift.  I did something pretty reckless just to be thought of as very funny and provocative, probably because of the sexual theme.

Ethical Definition:
The same explanation I gave before, only I'd like to add that I definitely see a difference in judging something on morality vs. ethics.  Your questions do not make any clear or imposed distinction on this point.


Whose Opinions:
Timothy's -- in case I felt so guilty that I might have told him what I did


Ethical Definition:
Being in integrity with oneself and the world


Other Choices:
0 - I realize I was thinking as if it happened now

Whose Opinions:
No one's...and that's why it bothered me

Ethical Definition:
Being in integrity with onceself and the world


Ethical Definition:
Has full integrity with oneself and the surrounding world


Frequency of Recollection:
as a teen, maybe a dozen times, maybe more.

Whose Opinions:
I didn't consider anyone's opinions. I acted upon my attraction to the heterosexul guy.

Ethical Definition:
the ability to reason, discern and act based upon what is right and what is wrong.


Whose Opinions:
I think I may have wondered what the person I was with would think if I chickened out.

Ethical Definition:
the ability to reason, discern and act based upon principles of what is right and wrong.


Frequency of Recollection:
3-5 times. Once I decided, I waited for my husband to prove himself by action.

Ethical Definition:
the ability to reason, act, discern between what is right and what is wrong.


Ethical Definition:
The ability to reason, discern and act on the basis of what is right and what is wrong.


Ethical Definition:
The ability to reason, act and discern based on the values of honesty, integrity, loyality, peacefulness, and harmlessness. Choosing between right and wrong.


Ethical Definition:
to decide, perceive, reason, and act, based on beliefs and judgements that honour principles of honesty, integrity, harmlessness, loyality, and peacefulness. Hence the ability to choose what is right and what is wrong.


Ethical Definition:
an actiion is ethical if it does not intentional inflict undue pain on others


Ethical Definition:
ethical , the question is , was I unduly hurtiing others, if I am , that is unethical


Ethical Definition:
an ethical decision is one that takes into account others well-being , meaning that they will not be hurt unduly


Other Choices:
I SHOULD HAVE NEVER LOST MY TEMPER AND SPOKEN WITHOUT THINKING TO THAT DEGREE

Wish Done Differently:
ALMOST DAILY--EVERY TIME I THOUGHT OF THE INCIDENT

Now Other Choices:
ONE!  KEPT MY MOUTH SHUT...BEST NOT TO THINK OR SPEAK SLUR-WORDS EVER...

Whose Opinions:
THAT'S JUST IT...I DIDN'T CONSIDER ANYONE ELSE FOR THAT NANO SECOND...TOO LATE...OUT OF MY MOUTH BEFORE I THOUGHT...AND THEN HORROR AT WHAT I HAD SAID...

Ethical Definition:
TRUE SELF HONESTY WITH RESPECT TO "THE GOLDEN RULE"...AN ACTION THAT YOU COULD PERFORM


Other Choices:
NOTHING REALLY...HE NEEDED HIS "SPACE" TO GRIEVE...I'D CALLED VETS FOR HIM...NOPE...NOTHING ELSE

Frequency of Recollection:
SEVERAL...OFTEN...I MISSED "SAMMY"...BUT SO GLAD HE'D GOTTEN

Now Frequency of Recollection:
ONCE OR TWICE MAYBE...SADLY HE STILL FORGETS TO SHUT HIS GATE AND HIS SWEET NEW DOG DOES ROAM AROUND BUT GRATEFULLY ALWAYS RETURNS...HE'S YOUNG

Whose Opinions:
I CONSIDERED MY NEIGHBOR'S OPINIONS AND NEEDS OBVIOUSLY...

Ethical Definition:
MORAL AND SELFLESS EVALUATION --AGAIN GOLDEN RULE APPLICATION


Frequency of Recollection:
A COUPLE...LIKE A LOTTERY WINNING FANTASY


Other Choices:
SEVERAL...COULD HAVE "SUGAR-COATED THE STORY" BUT THAT WOULD REALLY BE DISHONEST...

Frequency of Recollection:
VERY OFTEN AS I SAW THESE FRIENDS (CHRISTINA BEING MY "BEST" MANY TIMES PER WEEK...

Wish Done Differently:
NONE...THE "TRUTH" WOULD COME OUT BECAUSE BETH WOULD BE SPITEFUL ENOUGH TO "HANG HERSELF" BY DEEDS AND ACTIONS...KARMA CONTINUES TO PLAGUE HER POOR DEAR...

Now Other Choices:
ONE...AGAIN      I COULD'VE TOLD CHRISTINA THE "TALES"BUT HOW UNNECESSARY AND GOSSIPY--CHRISTINA MOVES ON QUICKLY AND DOESN'T DWELL ON NEGATIVE MOST GRATEFULLY...

Now Frequency of Recollection:
A FEW--GETS EASIER BUT STILL MUST COPE WITH MY FEELINGS ABOUT BETH AND HER CONTINUED CALCULATED  SELFISHNESS...I DISLIKE FEELING SO SORRY FOR HER AS SHE  DOESN'T SEEM TO LEARN

Now Wish Done Differently:
PERHAPS YES...I COULD HAVE STATED MORE CLEARLY THAT I DIDN'T WANT TO BE MANIPULATED INTO A POSITION OF "CHOOSING SIDES" AS BETH  WAS TACITLY BUT CALCULATEDLY--(WORD?) IMPLYING THAT I DO...

Whose Opinions:
BOTH CHRISTINA'S AND BETH'S AND THE THIRD PARTY VICKI'S...I'D DISCUSSED THIS WITH MY PARTNER NIC ALSO BECAUSE I DO VALUE HIS OPINION AND INPUT

Ethical Definition:
GOLDEN RULE VALUE JUDGMENT(ALSO ADD THIS TO MY SEMI-COLON OTHER ANSWERS OF DEFINITION


Other Choices:
1 TELL THE ABSOLULTE TRUTH AND HURT FEELINGS

Frequency of Recollection:
LIES OF CONVENIENCE ARE A CONTINUAL DECISION AND MINIMIZING THEM AND TO WHOM A CONSTANT...NOT TO HURT FEELINGS IF IT CAN BE AVOIDED WITHOUT COMPROMISING MY OWN BELIEFS..

Wish Done Differently:
SEVERAL--IF I THOUGHT CONFRONTATION COULD BE AVOIDED PERHAPS I'VE TAKEN AN "EASY WAY OUT"

Now Other Choices:
AGAIN...THIS IS ONGOING SO TRUTH OR SUGAR-COATING

Now Frequency of Recollection:
AS OFTEN AND HOPEFULLY NOT FREQUENTLY THAT "LIES OF CONVENIENCE" OCCUR

Whose Opinions:
OBVIOUSLY THE PERSON(S) INVOLVED...AND THEIR FEELINGS--HOW WOULD THIS AFFECT THEM

Ethical Definition:
BEING ABLE TO ACT AND REACT WITHOUT UNNECESARY ENERGY SPENT...SPONTANEOUS HONESTY


Other Choices:
SEVERAL...I COULD HAVE DISCUSSED MY "LACK OF RELATIONSHIP" WITH  ROB PRIOR TO JACK'S VISIT...JACK AND I DISCUSSED THE APPROPRIATENESS OF OUR "FLING" BEFORE AND AFTER...AGAIN...HONESTY WITH ROB WOULD HAVE BEEN WAY BETTER

Frequency of Recollection:
OFTEN...BUT I CAN'T REMEMBER IF WE EVER TOLD ROB OR IF HE FOUND OUT OR WHAT...NOW HOW ABOUT THAT!

Wish Done Differently:
OFTEN I WISHED I HAD BEEN MORE HONEST ABOUT MY FEELINGS AND MY BELIEFS IN THE LACK OF FEELINGS FOR ME FROM ROB

Now Other Choices:
BEEN HONEST AND TRUTHFUL ABOUT MY FEELINGS TO ROB...I DID NOT HAVE THIS "FLING" TO HURT HIM...I REALLY BELIEVED HE JUST DIDN'T CARE ABOUT ME ANYHOW...AND THAT OUR RELATIONSHIP WAS OVER...I NEEDED TO STAND UP FOR MYSELF INSTEAD OF LET ROB CALL THE RELATIO

Now Wish Done Differently:
AGAIN...I WISH I HAD COURAGE OF MY CONVICTIONS  WITH MORAL STRENGTH...VALUED MYSELF MORE TO SPEAK UP AND OUT TO ROB--I TRULY HAD LET HIM "BULLY" ME EMOTIONALLY...AND HE REALLY DIDN'T CARE ENOUGH ABOUT ME...SILLY SILLY ME...


Other Choices:
2-NOT GIVEN WALLET TO POLICE AND NOT CALLED THE OWNER

Frequency of Recollection:
A COUPLE..WHEN WALKING TO SEE WHAT ELSE WE WOULD "FIND"

Now Other Choices:
AGAIN....2 NOT CALLED AND NOT TURNED IT IN--OH AND 3 KEPT WALLET -4-THROWN IT AWAY


Other Choices:
MOST IMPORTANTLY--I COULD HAVE TOLD THESE GIRLS I DIDN'T SHOPLIFT...IT WAS WRONG ...AND NEVER HUNG OUT WITH THEM AGAIN...STUCK BY MY TRUE "ETHICAL" BEHAVIORS...

Now Other Choices:
ONE!  REMOVED MYSELF FROM THESE PEOPLE AND THEIR "INFLUENCE"

Now Wish Done Differently:
ABSOLUTELY...HOW COULD I HAVE BEEN SO WEAK-WILLED...

Whose Opinions:
THOSE SILLY GIRLS & MY PARENTS & THE LAW (OBVIOUSLY NOT ENOUGH ATTENTION TO THEM!)  CUZ I STILL SHOPLIFTEDDDDDDDDDDDDDD--OK STOLE THIS SILLY 10 CENT I THINK ADDRESS BOOK...THAT I DIDN'T EVEN NEED


Wish Done Differently:
I just said I would never do that again that's all.

Ethical Definition:
someone who has certain moral vlues and beliefs and knows from right and wrong.


Other Choices:
I am sure I could have done many different things,  but I was happy to get married at that time, since I felt I was very happy with the man I was in love with..

Frequency of Recollection:
I never really thought about this decision, since I was content with it at the time.

Wish Done Differently:
years later. I thought maybe I married the wrong person.

Now Other Choices:
I could have dated more and seen how other men were as well, but since my parents were very strict with me that was not an option.  My husband was Hungarian and that was important to them, since they felt he was a good man.

Ethical Definition:
An ethical person is someone who follows certain rules and respects others as well.


Other Choices:
I could have made a choice not to share it with my father, but I think he wanted to know and that is why I told him.

Frequency of Recollection:
I try not to think of these unpleasant emotions, especially since I've dealt with them in therapy and wish to move forward.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I don't think about it, since I prefer not to talk to my father about issues that he should speak to mother about.

Ethical Definition:
someone who has a certain standard of what they believe is right and wrong.


Other Choices:
same I said before, I could have left my husband and divorced him.

Now Other Choices:
Gone for couples therapy, left him and divorced.

Now Wish Done Differently:
not really, it was a good choice at the time.

Ethical Definition:
Someone who lives by certain rules and behaviors that are right or wrong for them.


Other Choices:
I honestly don't know....but I needed to go out for an evening and so I had to say something...since, my husband wanted to be with me 24 hours a day at times and I needed to spend an evening with a friend.

Now Other Choices:
could have said something different as well.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I never think about small moments like that.

Whose Opinions:
only my own, there was no need to consult anyone else.

Ethical Definition:
Ethical is someone who has beliefs that they live by.


Other Choices:
I could have left my husband, but that something that I had already done in the past, but came back to him and wanted to make the relationship work.

Now Other Choices:
We could have gone in for therapy, but my husband was in denial and not interested at all.  I could have left him again and just got a divorce, but eventually I did that.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I honestly don't think about it, since it was so long ago and I forgive myself for my past.

Ethical Definition:
ethical is someone who follows certain rules and guidelines that they create for themselves.


Whose Opinions:
the people organizing the TV preview group


Whose Opinions:
I considered Sandra's opinion.  I didn't want her to feel she was a negligent hostess.


Ethical Definition:
honest, morally right, not self-serving, not purposefully hurtful to another person


Other Choices:
eaten before the movie, bought something inexpensive and shared it btw the 3 of us, or not gone to the movie at all

Frequency of Recollection:
once a month or every time we go to a movie.

Wish Done Differently:
I would like to think that I would do things differently, but for some reason I am not that disturbed by it - perhaps I rationalize the behavior in terms of economics, reasoning that the theater is making a killing with their concessions sales.

Now Other Choices:
eaten bfore the movie, shared an item from the concesson stand, not gone to the movie at all to avoid that dilemma.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Don't really think about it, but it doesn't mean that I don't know right from wrong or that I think all movie-goers should do the same.  I don't sonciously think abaout it that much.

Now Wish Done Differently:
I'd like to say that I would - and this is generally true because when we do have some money in our pocket we will buy popcorn and snaks at the movie theater even though the prices are excessive.

Ethical Definition:
an ethical person will do the right thing in the face of temptation.  But the right thing may be ethically wrong for one person yet acceptable to another.  So an ethical decision depends on a person's moral beliefs.


Other Choices:
maybe 3 distictly different things could have been done - including informing the waiter of the error, leaving a bigger tip, returning to that same restaurant at a later time and placing a large order to make up for the previous error.

Frequency of Recollection:
This is not a recurring issue, so it doesn't really keep popping up as an issue.  I maybe think about it a few times a year.

Wish Done Differently:
I do not dwell on past events even this is a morally wrong decision which goes against what I believe in.  Although I wish I had done things differently, I rationalize that I was driven by hard ecnomic decisions and that I did what I did because I was in

Now Other Choices:
I probably had the money to pay since I ordered the food, so I wouldn't necessarily order less food, but I would have brought it to the attention of the wait staff and paid the full amt. of the check, I could have left a bigger tip, but that would also b

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I don't really think of or dwell on the decision not to report the bill error on the restaurant check, but it may come up in other situations in more suibtle situations, such as when paying for meter parking  (not paying when the meter is red and I'm sit

Now Wish Done Differently:
I probably did it because I felt compelled or felt that I wasn't really hurting anyone because I was not at fault in the calculation error, and I don't really dwell on it.  But would I have done things differently if I were in a better financial situation?  perhaps yes.

Whose Opinions:
wife, daughter, parents - would they have done the same thing?  If not, I probably rationalized my behavior to make it more palatable.

Ethical Definition:
to be ethical is to do the right thing - legally and morally


Other Choices:
could have remained silent about problems at school and avoided much aggravation, could have petitioned the sdhool to make the necessary changes and had someone else in student gov't take charge

Frequency of Recollection:
Used to think of it often during and immediately after graduating from law school, but it has become more of a distant memory of past accomplishments and there are other more pressing matters to take care of.

Wish Done Differently:
wouldn't have done anything differently.

Now Other Choices:
avoided taking up an controversial issues, delegated the tasks to another member of student gov't.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
The decision was the right and only choice I could have made then and now.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Would have recruited more help from community members and perhaps brought the matter to the attention of the Board of Trustees, and maybe even brought in a television newscrew - to show how the law school was not complying with the ADA (Americans with Disabilities) Act.

Ethical Definition:
ethical is doing the right thing even when nobody else is doing it.


Other Choices:
moved in with in-laws in a different city, waited till we were homeless to qualify for aid, find a good-paying job (which despite a mountain of job applications, never came my way).

Frequency of Recollection:
It was a traumatic experience that I think about often, especially whenever we sturggle with basic necessities and we are dangerlously close to not having food or money to pay rent.  I don't want to experience social aid ever again, so we do whatever it

Wish Done Differently:
Despite the experience being totally negative and disgusting, I am grateful that I have that experience in many ways because now I know what people have to go through on a daily basis and I can better empathize with them.  People are not poor by choice a

Now Other Choices:
could have sought job-training for specialized field even though I had my law degree - and to somehow find work in other specialty fields other than law and education.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I think about the experience often, but not of whether I did the right or wrong thing.  I did what was necessary to put food on the table and to get necessary and needed financial assistance in the form of monthly welfare checks and food stamps.  It is n

Now Wish Done Differently:
I don't think there was really anything I could have done differently at that point in time, but there may have been other things I could have demanded prior to reaching the end of our rope.  I did what any parent would have done to be able to provide their child with food and shelter.

Whose Opinions:
friends, fellow professionals who held good-paying jobs an would not understand our situation

Ethical Definition:
ethical is doing the right thing for your family despite what others may think


Other Choices:
I could have said I was not going to do any work in the legal field, I could have omitted my having gone to law school

Frequency of Recollection:
every time I go for a job interview, submit a resume for a job or get behind in my bills because I don't yet have a steady good-paying job.

Wish Done Differently:
I have trouble paying bills and buying basic necessities.  so every day that I struggle with these issues I think why I don't have a good-paying job yet and think that perhaps I should just lie like so many other people in order to get a job.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
This is not a decision that I struggle with in terms of whether or not I made a right decision to tell the interviewer about my educational

Now Wish Done Differently:
yes - for practicality sakes, not whether or not I did the right thing on moral

Ethical Definition:
ethical means doing the right thing even if it is to your detriment or not practical


Ethical Definition:
ethical is being in compliance with our laws and making a decision


Whose Opinions:
The male  who was in the motel  room with my girlfriend and I.

Ethical Definition:
ethical is an opinion based on the  church ( im just clowning]


Ethical Definition:
ethical is making a decision based on laws


Ethical Definition:
ethical is knowing and doing the fair thing


Ethical Definition:
ethical is pretty much following the golden rule


Other Choices:
I could have been faithful to my husband and not even go near the other person

Now Other Choices:
not been unfaithful, take a new hobby up, get marriage counseling

Ethical Definition:
a person that thinks about the other person and takes actions based on truths


Other Choices:
I could have specifically said I was raised by my mother and grandmother

Frequency of Recollection:
only about a few times, it was less than ten I think

Now Other Choices:
told the truth that I was being raised by mother and grandmother, dad out of the picture

Ethical Definition:
a person that tells the truth and considers the consequences of the actions


Other Choices:
have the child and give up for adoption and also raise the child as a single parent

Now Other Choices:
three things, have baby and give up for adoption is an open adoption


Other Choices:
not taken the money and just work for the money on a part-time job

Now Other Choices:
not taken money, asked for the money rather than just taking it.


Ethical Definition:
respecting the boundaries of society and good behavior while being true to oneself


Ethical Definition:
to participate in creating harmony and honor in our society


Ethical Definition:
not allowing one's rights or privileges to infringe upon other's rights or privileges


Ethical Definition:
a set of values that reflect a truth for oneself and for one's society


Ethical Definition:
to live by established values that are true to oneself and others


Ethical Definition:
a balanced respect for the rights and needs of others


Ethical Definition:
to be cognicent of our actions as they pertain to the welfare of others


Ethical Definition:
Always Trying To Do The Right Thing  In Every Situation


Whose Opinions:
my partner, other people on the committee I was on with the person I was flirting with


Ethical Definition:
Ethical is what you do when no one is looking.  WWJD


Ethical Definition:
Ethical means doing the right thing when no one is looking.  Another popular phrase that works pretty well is "what would Jesus do?".  Ethics mean that there is right and wrong, with yes shades of gray.  But, you act ethical mostly because it it the corr


Ethical Definition:
Ethical is what you do when no one is looking .  WWJD


Whose Opinions:
Mine, and the potential employer's opinion.

Ethical Definition:
Ehthical is what you do when no one is looking.  WWJD


Ethical Definition:
As I said in the previous question, Ethics are what you do when no one is looking.  WWJD or what would Jesus do works nicely too.


Whose Opinions:
For my part time job I do sometimes think about the people I call


Other Choices:
I could have refused to work for Vanessa

Whose Opinions:
All of the people who would not owrk for her

Ethical Definition:
putting your needs aside to help another


Other Choices:
I could have dragged my weary self to the store or not have had a cocktail

Now Other Choices:
I could have done many things at the time but I chose not to!


Other Choices:
I could have gone out with him and satisfied my curiosity, engaged in conversation to find out more about this young man, ignore him !

Frequency of Recollection:
I cant say exactly how many times but I still think about the decision I made.

Ethical Definition:
High morals and high standards for living ones life


Other Choices:
I could have chosen not to take the glasses


Now Other Choices:
I could have allowed Krystal to  find a job and stay with me but that was not an option she had to return to NYC


Ethical Definition:
Adhering to a strict code of behavior exhibiting high moral standards of conduct


Whose Opinions:
My father most of all, and my mother to a lesser extent

Ethical Definition:
Adhering to a strict code of behavior exhibiting high moral standards


Whose Opinions:
Those of my aunt and grandmother with respect to how they felt about cheating the IRS


Whose Opinions:
Attorneys, bank managers, financial advisors and stockbrokers. All of them indicated they could have handled those responsibilities. As it turned oiut, I did a better job than any of them could have in that situation, which is why I made the decision I did. Events proved me to have been correct for many years until after I had gotten married.

Ethical Definition:
Adhering to a code of behavior exhibiting high moral standards.


Whose Opinions:
The opinions of the executives responsible for the insurance operation and the opinions of bankers, money managers and securities analysts who would have to judge the merits of the decision after it had been rendered.

Ethical Definition:
Adhering to a strict code of behavior exhibiting high moral stands of conduct


Whose Opinions:
My mother, aunt, grandmother and all of the consulting physicians

Ethical Definition:
Adherence to a strict code of behavior exhibiting high moral standards of conduct.


Whose Opinions:
Those of her immediate family, including herself, her children, her mother and grandmother


Ethical Definition:
Adhering to a code of behavior embracing high moral standards


Whose Opinions:
The attitudes of major investors and securities analysts, particularly with regard to the future credibility of the company and myself as its chief corporate spokesman.

Ethical Definition:
Adherence to a strict code of behavior exhibiting high moral standards of conduct


Frequency of Recollection:
Not many - it was so uncharacteristic of my usual behavior that I totally blocked it out. "Out of sight, out of mind."

Wish Done Differently:
Few. Because I was managed to not think of it, I didn't have to wish I hadn't done it.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
None. I'd totally forgotten this episode until participating in this study.

Whose Opinions:
My roommate's most of all, but also family and friends.

Ethical Definition:
Ethics are a behavioral code which one believes in and attempts to follow.


Now Frequency of Recollection:
Just a few (in this very recent experience).

Now Wish Done Differently:
No, not really. Maybe it would have been better to take it to a vet, although this was a Sunday and I knew this would mean an emergency vet and a higher bill at a time I was looking for work.

Whose Opinions:
My husband's, as I thought briefly whether to bring this dog home. I knew I couldn't shouldn't, wouldn't - and that my husband would feel the same way.

Ethical Definition:
An ethical person has a strong sense of right and wrong, and holds himself


Now Frequency of Recollection:
Probably none, although I have recounted it as a funny story to friends of the years. But I don't think I ever 'fessed up to my parents.

Now Wish Done Differently:
I have a slight twinge about not telling them the truth.

Ethical Definition:
Believing there are right and wrong behaviors, etc., and doing one's best to live up to good behavior - honesty, accepting responsibility for one's actions, etc.


Wish Done Differently:
Never, although I wished I'd done MORE (e.g., been able to be nearby - instead of across the country - when he was in treatment and working on recovery.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Not sure - maybe once or twice. I was ultimately unsuccessful and my father's alcoholism led to an early death (at 65) 11 years ago.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes, just that I wish I could have lived closer (or stayed closer) to him to help him with his attempts at sobriety. He was pretty alone (with an "enabling" partner) in Ohio and Florida, whereas I was in Colorado.

Whose Opinions:
First my grandmother, who was then in her mid-80's (she lived to almost 98) and, while a caring person, didn't exactly want to face hard realities. (I learned later that her favorite brother, Malcolm, had been banished from the family due to alcoholism more than 50 years before.)  And my mother, who'd been divorced from my dad for 10 years, was still very angry - and developing her own, closet problem with alcohol. After I did this intervention, she said to me, caustically, "Don't you EVER do that to me!"

Ethical Definition:
An ethical person, when confronted with a situation about which something with a potentially positive outcome can be done, acts. I believe we are each other's keepers.


Frequency of Recollection:
Many - I was ashamed and embarrassed and consider this to be one of the early, crucial lessons in my life.

Wish Done Differently:
Many - I'd done something selfish, and helped make other people's lives miserable.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Unsure. Maybe none, although it remains an important lesson which has shaped my behavior ever since. However, this study brought it back to mind.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes, I wish we'd kept it totally platonic and not sexualized it that single time.

Ethical Definition:
Having a sense of proper behavior (right and wrong) and enough inner strength to try to live "rightly".


Frequency of Recollection:
Almost never. It went into the deepest freeze of denial.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Never, until this study. Like I've said, we both blocked it out, never spoke of it again, and tragically he died when he was 39.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Absolutely. I wish it had never happened.

Ethical Definition:
Being ethical means knowing right from wrong, and trying to avoid the wrong.


Now Frequency of Recollection:
Half a dozen. When my husband and I have an argument, it sometimes comes up with him expressing anger that it happened and that I didn't tell him what it was.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes, I think about how I would wish to do everything possible to avoid this having happened.

Whose Opinions:
My partner's. At that time, just as I didn't know I had this disease and hadn't been diagnosed, absolutely no one else knew anything about it either, including the guy with whom I'd lived 8 years a decade or so before. So I was only concerned about my partner (now husband) and how he would feel, what he would think of me.

Ethical Definition:
Ethical people consider how their actions will affect others, and try to avoid doing those things which they know will have a bad effect.


Now Frequency of Recollection:
Probably not at all, as it's almost 30 years ago.

Whose Opinions:
The guy on whoom I'd be cheating, my friends, peers, possibly family (if they found out).

Ethical Definition:
An ethical person understands right and wrong in the legal sense, and behaves as such, while also considering how one's behaviors affect others and tries to make good decisions based on this fact.


Now Frequency of Recollection:
Half a dozen. It's probably always going to be with me - a defining moment when he was killed and my 4 1

Whose Opinions:
The man's family, my family, my co-workers.

Ethical Definition:
Trying to live up to what one believes is right, and to bend over backwards in doing wrong, whether hurting others in some way, or breaking the law.


Frequency of Recollection:
Rarely, if at all. I got married, happily, and both of us became - and remain - friends with the other guy. My husband doesn't know about this and I'd totally forgotten until doing this study.

Wish Done Differently:
Rarely. I felt I'd done the right thing by not following thru, and I cut myself a break.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
None. It came to find because of this study.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Not really. I still think I understand it (it was sort of a "last fling" before I moved in with my fiance), but I'm glad I stopped short.

Whose Opinions:
My fiance's, almost exclusively. And the guy who'd briefly been a boyfriend and with whom I'd gone to dinner that night.

Ethical Definition:
Having standards of behavior and attempting to live up to them.


Frequency of Recollection:
Every day. It just happened, and I still have one of the kittens. The other has been placed in an excellent home and the outside feral mother hasn't been seen in a month.

Wish Done Differently:
Never, but still hope to find a good home for the now 4 month old kitten as our two cats would be happier without her. However, if there are no good alternatives, we'll keep her, too, and give her an excellent home.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
As I wrote earlier, this occurred only this past summer and we still have one of the once feral kittens in our home. So I think of every day in some way or other.

Now Wish Done Differently:
No, unless that I might have also found the truly feral - and probably untameable - year old mom a home, too.

Whose Opinions:
I guess I didn't consider any other opinions beforehand, which is something my husband, 'though also an animal lover and generally supportive of my choice, has asked me about

Ethical Definition:
An ethical person has a clear sense of right and wrong - an inner compass, so to speak m-and does his or her best to live up to those standards.


Frequency of Recollection:
Although it recurred over a number of years, I can't recall thinking about it between times, and was just glad to get to do it again.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
None. It all came back vividly when I did this study.

Now Wish Done Differently:
No, I actually think it's wonderful that I did it - and copmpletely understandable.

Ethical Definition:
Living up to one's ideals of proper, honorable behavior.


Now Wish Done Differently:
With hindsight (my relationship eventually ended because of his cheating), I feel some ambivalence, like I'd denied myself something. But that seems self-centered, and I still believe keeping my word (about not cheating) was the only right thing to do.

Whose Opinions:
My boyfriend's, of course - and other people, many strangers - attending the party.

Ethical Definition:
Ethics require a person to at least try to live up to their personal standards and ideals.


Other Choices:
Two; Pick it up and keep it or leave the money on the ground.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes, I wish I had put the money in my pocket....I needed it more than the guy that dropped it.

Whose Opinions:
The on lookers who saw me retrieve the money.

Ethical Definition:
Do not hurt anybody and do not take any body's stuff; live ecologically and preserve the planet.


Frequency of Recollection:
At least ten because of (the futility of preparing to cheat was tantamount to studying) the risk of being caught cheating.

Wish Done Differently:
A few; there was not as much regret as there would have been if I was caught....so I knew studying was better.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
None; honest test taking is my policy since then.

Whose Opinions:
My Grandparents and the teacher (nun) and my classmates IF I got caught.

Ethical Definition:
Do not hurt anybody do not take anybody's stuff and live ecologically by preserving the planet AND Not cheating to steal other's test scores or GPA's.


Other Choices:
None; the contract mioght not have been recinded if there were no witnesses to the UNbussiness like abuse I was subjected to.

Frequency of Recollection:
Ten; I told the story quite a few times.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Once,  I was thinking how paying this loan off early might have benefitted my FICA score.

Now Wish Done Differently:
No.   Except maybe having real poeple hear the conversation....or maybe recording it secretly.

Whose Opinions:
No one's; I repay people with the same cion they pay me; so if I get lied to then the liar might need me to embellish better in order to achieve justice.

Ethical Definition:
Do not hurt any body do not take any body's stuff and live ecologically to preserve the planet.


Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes, of course even if it necessitated the threat of violence, or I could have begin litigation to the Pope for the failure of a Catholic hospital to preserve life.

Whose Opinions:
No one's; I felt so frustrated and sad....no thing and no one mattered because evil step-children were having thier revenge.

Ethical Definition:
Do not hurt any body and do not take any body's stuff; live ecologically and preserve the planet.


Frequency of Recollection:
none....plenty of times about the reaction.

Whose Opinions:
My Aunt's and God's Judgement of my actions.

Ethical Definition:
Not hurting anybody not taking anybody's stuff and living ecologically  to preserve the planet.


Other Choices:
Two; not enter the abode and talk my friends away from commiting the crime.

Frequency of Recollection:
Probably at least ten; especially after my car was stolen....the issue of karma was haunting me.

Now Other Choices:
Three; not participate, talk them out of it, report the burgalry to the police.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes, I wish I had respect for my fellow poeple back then.

Whose Opinions:
None; the the thrill of the crime eliminated any consideration of other's thoughts.

Ethical Definition:
Do not hurt anybody do not take anybody's stuff; live ecologically and preserve the planet.


Ethical Definition:
clearly choosing right over wrong and being fair at all times


Ethical Definition:
choosing right over wrong, and being fair at all times


Whose Opinions:
my employer, if caught by him, but knowing I would not I guess

Ethical Definition:
clear sense of right and worng and acting in the right, accordingly


Ethical Definition:
a legal black and white sense of right and wrong, however, in this case if the ethical person ALSO was allowed these emotions I was having, it might be hard for an ethical person to make a clear


Whose Opinions:
the security staff at the hotel, anyone who could catch us

Ethical Definition:
clear sense of right and wrong and always choosing the right and fair choice


Whose Opinions:
lover's and also the needy to whom I was donating money to

Ethical Definition:
clearing discerning between right and wrong, and always judging fairly based on strong rules


Now Wish Done Differently:
I wish the relationship situation was different which would have INSPIRED me to be different. But ultimately yes, I wish I could have held out

Ethical Definition:
keeping a clear separatiion between morality and whim.  Always deciding in a clear, black or white


Ethical Definition:
clear sense of right and wrong and always acting in the 'right'


Ethical Definition:
once again, a clear defining of right and wrong and being one who chooses the 'right'


Other Choices:
two - i could have actually given the script to the agent or i could have told me friend i was uncomfortable doing it

Ethical Definition:
doing what is right both morally and legally


Other Choices:
one - i could have bought the trail mix before "sampling" it

Now Other Choices:
one - buy the trail mix prior to eating it


Other Choices:
i could have stayed in Los Angeles and not bothered to help out - that's the only other option

Wish Done Differently:
really not at all - once I had made the decision and followed through, I knew there was nothing else I could have done

Ethical Definition:
doing what is right both legally and morally


Ethical Definition:
doing the right thing in the eyes of the law. and with a sense of morality


Other Choices:
i could have kept my mouth shut and just kept on taking the abuse but to me, that wasn't an option

Now Other Choices:
one - kept my mouth shut - but to me, that wasn't a viable option


Other Choices:
two - let someone else pay or split the bill equally between everyone

Now Other Choices:
two - let someone else pay or split the bill equally among the other guests

Whose Opinions:
every other guest at the table - i knew they would never have let me do this if I asked ahead of time so I didn't

Ethical Definition:
doing the right thing, both legally and morally


Other Choices:
one - i could have asked to borrow the music instead of just taking it

Now Other Choices:
one - ask to borrow the music instead of just taking it


Other Choices:
none -this was the only thing I felt I could do to get the job done

Now Other Choices:
one  - could've tried harder to involve someone he knew better and wno knew him better


Other Choices:
none - giving the money back was the only option in my mind


Other Choices:
one - I could have told everyone I was going to the casino


Now Other Choices:
not start the affair , get a divorce immediately

Whose Opinions:
i considered people i knew at work and friends and most importantly my children who were young

Ethical Definition:
it is adhering to a set standard of behavior that is universally accepted


Ethical Definition:
treating the man who lost the wallet as i would liked to have been treated


Frequency of Recollection:
since its ongoing i think about it when occurs

Ethical Definition:
in this situation i am doing the convenient thing, i'm not that concerned with the ethical position


Other Choices:
i could have just not taken the credit, i could have earned the credit by attending the classes, i could have earned the credit in another program

Frequency of Recollection:
about 10 times thats when i made the decision to earn  credits the right way

Wish Done Differently:
i started immediately to earn credits and didn't look back much

Ethical Definition:
it is the adhering to a standard of behavior that is universally accepted


Whose Opinions:
i considered the players, their parents and the school officials

Ethical Definition:
doing the right because it is the right thing


Ethical Definition:
is the adhering to a standard of behavior that universally accepted


Now Frequency of Recollection:
since it is ongoing i think about it 2 to 3 times monthly

Ethical Definition:
i tried to have someone who is responsible to students teach by talking to him giving him time to make changes then  the department members spoke with him then finally informed the adminstration of his non committment


Ethical Definition:
following a set standard of behavior the is accepted by society


Ethical Definition:
the ethical thing to do is to explain to her that there are other things i find more involving and would visit less often


Frequency of Recollection:
a few times, we stopped before we got caught then got jobs selling newspapers

Wish Done Differently:
i don't remember, i got a job when is was old enough and walked away

Now Wish Done Differently:
yes, i wish i could have seen more choices available


Ethical Definition:
the ethical thing was to break off the relationship however it would have been better to express my reasons for the breakup


Ethical Definition:
to have been ethical in this situatiion, i would have said no


Ethical Definition:
Ethical = doing the correct thing even when no one will know if you acted correctly.


Ethical Definition:
ethical = doing what is correct at all times.


Ethical Definition:
ethical = doing the right thing when no one is watching.


Ethical Definition:
In this situation this was a learning experience. I learned to not steal and that you  have to judge other peoples motives for what they are advising you to do.


Ethical Definition:
Helping someone in need, in this situation. Neighbors helping neighbors.


Ethical Definition:
Being in touch with the feelings of others.


Ethical Definition:
NOT ONLY KNOWING GOOD FROM BAD ACTIONS BUT ACTING ACCCORDINGLY.


Ethical Definition:
THIS IS A FAIRLY SIMPLE CASE OF GOOD OR BAD DECISION MAKING. I DON'T STEAL AND TAKING EXTRA CHANGE IS TANTAMOUNT TO STEALING.


Other Choices:
At least two, I could have waited or backed up and went around possibly.

Ethical Definition:
Ethics has to do with every day moral decisions and how we conduct ourselves.


Other Choices:
I could have done many things different if I would have made the right decesions.

Now Other Choices:
Many I could have chosen to react in different ways.

Ethical Definition:
Ethical someone who regards his conciesce and considers very carefully his actions.


Other Choices:
A number of  different things. that I should have done.

Ethical Definition:
Ethics has to do with morals and how you use them in everyday life.


Other Choices:
A few I should have made myself clearer for one.

Now Other Choices:
I could have made myself clear right at the point the misunderstanding started to take place.

Ethical Definition:
Ethic has to do with interpersonal morality, and how we relate to each other.


Now Other Choices:
i wouldn't know until i tryed everything


Other Choices:
i had very few options, no libraries, no cheaper books. Imagine a book costing 450 or 600 dollars. I knew journalists and writers who didn't make enough to buy a good edition of an important novelist and the price was double their week's salary

Now Other Choices:
worked more (i had a job and was full time student though)

Ethical Definition:
Ethical is knowing that beyond legalalities and subtle arguments, one's actions are the final argument one puts forward


Frequency of Recollection:
seldom but I do believe in constantly polishing the speech that we put out which involves others and their reputations

Now Other Choices:
every time someone utters a string of words or phrase, the other may perceive one is lying, one only has to react as honestly as one knows when someone asks a question to which you answer in a way that may be perceived as a lie.

Whose Opinions:
I consider any opnion from any coherent source

Ethical Definition:
I wish i knew the greek  or whatever root so I'd give you a different definition (ethos?) ethical is that all truths can be reduced as arguments to three basic tenents and the french already said it perfectly


Other Choices:
this question is not clear in reference to my memory #1 of 'stealing' money as a teenager and being regretful to some extent

Frequency of Recollection:
Not often. In fact, in my memories that abruptly surface when I conjure up my dad's image, this particular 'dishonest' incidend doesn't even register. I think only in the context of this interview-research this might be relevant, I don't feel it has mark

Now Other Choices:
I could have tried finding another job (in fact that's what I did and I only worked for him for months at a time in between other jobs.

Now Wish Done Differently:
I've said before I looked for options outside of my dad's business to avoid that dreadful feeling of taking money (I should add the money amounts I speak of are laughable)

Whose Opinions:
mom's who is the person who first taught me about how to identify things 'good' and bad, my own beliefs of  God already in conflict with a strict catholic upbringing,

Ethical Definition:
ethical is equanimity, impecability, ethical is not false pretense about law and order but instead a fair assesment of human behaviour and its outcome. Ethics is constantly make sure we turn the other way when a principle of equality is at stake


Frequency of Recollection:
i thought about it often, i can't put a number to it

Ethical Definition:
ethical is to stand for what's right even if emotional scenarios point in another direction


Other Choices:
I could have chosen to stay sober to 'pretend' that I was 'rehabilitated' and wait for the minute the court released me to have me a pot party and laugh at the system or instead, I chose to remain who I was and as it happens, I actually use quite a bit l

Whose Opinions:
the judge (whom for months looked at my stack of papers and never made eye contact with me so I could tell him that I wasn't a lost soul dragging in the streets for the next fix to shoot in my veins, I finally met a counselor there that was willing to be open about recovery and I told her everything about my test cheating and my intentions of lowering, without any outside cohersion, my drug intake... because she chose to believe me and gave me the permission to close the bathroom door I chose to not fail her and never took drugs for the remainder of the program and I always thought of how her honest approach was ten times more helpful than everyone else, drug czar or rehab guru...

Ethical Definition:
ethical is being able to differentiate sentimental arguments to uphold unjust principles. In some cases, being ethical has meant being anti-government (Mandela and Walesa, Tutu, Marcos, Guevara, Teresa)


Frequency of Recollection:
i think of this episode not often but it did stay with me and being 36 years old, it's already at least 30 years old so it must have some significance in my psyche but I couldn't honestly pinpoint one other than the obvious feeling of being cruel

Wish Done Differently:
when I thught about it I thought it would've been best if I didn't try chocking the cat and simply told my mom to not let it come into our room...

Now Other Choices:
very few or none... the cat actually scratched me and bit me a lot harder than any of my chocking may have caused to him...

Ethical Definition:
ethical is the only thing that satisfies in some deeper level


Frequency of Recollection:
Daily-almost evey time I looked at the mask or passed by his place of business!

Whose Opinions:
Only mine at the time, then later, the opinion of my friend

Ethical Definition:
Please just use the definitions I've already provided.


Other Choices:
I could have tried to ignore him and move on, but I can still recall and even feel how compelled I was to try to do something for him, even though it was a definite financial sacrifice for me at the time. I guess I could have only bought him some of the

Frequency of Recollection:
Every time it was cold. I wondered how he was and that, hopefully, I wan't the only one who felt moved to help him.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I've thought about it a few times (when I visited the same store).

Now Wish Done Differently:
I only wish that I would have, by now, spent some time volunteering in one way or another for the homeless or others in nees.

Whose Opinions:
I really didn't consider anyone's opinions at the time. I've only ever told one person about this. When I commit acts of charity, it is between me and the receiver or me and the universe. I don't do it for approval. My kids and friends have seen me give very small amounts of change to people on the street. Those situations have occurred in places where I would be with people. Since they have seen the act, I only hope that they would be similarly inspired at some point, in some way to do the same. I've already seen this working in my children's lives and actions.


Wish Done Differently:
almost every day, all day long on those days.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I think about this experience several times a week.

Now Wish Done Differently:
I wish I'd been strongenough to leave him and never go back.  The only modification I have on this answer is that if it would mean that I couldn't have my two youngest children, I could not wish that I hadn't stayed. Maybe just had found a way to make things much better for my daughter.  This is why I gave a "9" rather than a "10" on one of my last answers.

Ethical Definition:
please refer to previously answered identical question.


Other Choices:
I could have returned immediately to the store I'd just left; in fact, I was about to and my boyfriend asked me to wait until after we finished in the store to which we had just arrived (we were running a bit short on time). I wouldn't have chosen to do

Frequency of Recollection:
Just a few-when my boyfriend recounted the story to my sister and then to a couple of our friends, then to me, again!(He finds the situation very funny that I could be so absent-minded; he knows I'd not have done it on purpose!)

Now Other Choices:
already stated; answer remains the same.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Already stated.  I've not really thought about it much during the last couple of months, only when someone else has mentioned it.

Whose Opinions:
The people who worked in the store; the opinion of my boyfrien. I was glad that he caught a glimpse of how I operate, what I'm about (even though it was over such a small thing).


Other Choices:
Not checked at all, though the desire was too strong not too!

Ethical Definition:
Clear values of doing the right thing even though it may be painful at times.


Other Choices:
Waited a long time for the movie to stat over again.

Now Other Choices:
Again, I would have had to wait a long time.  I got to see another movie I wanted to see.


Other Choices:
I could have not said anything and kept the money as I needed it for a new car.

Frequency of Recollection:
Several. Frankly, I felt like a fool as I needed the money as I was working overtime for a down payment on a car. I knew the money wasn't mine and I would have more problems later on and it wasn't worth it.  If the money had been mine, I hope someone wou

Wish Done Differently:
Several as I was told I should have not said anything!

Now Other Choices:
I could have been a fool and kept the money and had problems with the bank and police, but I worked for the Police Dept. and I needed my job.  The trouble I would have gotten into wasn't worth it.

Whose Opinions:
My own.  I have to live with myself and I had a young child to give a good example too.

Ethical Definition:
Moral and doing the right thing. Being honest.


Other Choices:
Not let the desire control me. I becam a compulsive shopper and shoplifter.

Now Other Choices:
This was so long ago--I was young and stupid! I just wish I had not done it. A lot of things I did pay for.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
None until I had to think about it for this study.


Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes, looked closer and not eaten her meal by mistake.


Other Choices:
None.  I looked and thought I had enough distance but I misjudged and scraped the car parked illegally.

Now Other Choices:
Looked closer and tried NOT to hit the car.  I really did not want to hit the car.  People hit me all the time and its really annoying.

Ethical Definition:
Moral and doing the right thing all the time.


Other Choices:
backed away from the deal, become a government witness, help to launder the money,try to figure out if my "friend was scamming me and report him to the police

Now Other Choices:
see prior answer in retrospect  i do not believe my options had changed. Iview the situation now as then as a big fish that got away story

Now Wish Done Differently:
i wish i got more information found if the money was real or just a south american myth

Whose Opinions:
my own self preservation I weighed the risks rewards and acted solely in my own self interest

Ethical Definition:
see prior answers  i don't think that something being illegal makes un ethical


Now Other Choices:
a few not cheated, cheated in different classes

Ethical Definition:
an ethical person is someone who has a code of conduct either thought up by themselves or from external sources ethical people stick to these even when it si not in their own best interests to do so.


Other Choices:
told the truth not gotten wasted i got caught raiding the fridge at home so eaten out

Whose Opinions:
my parents my stepfather was the controller for a local mental health center so i was avoiding psychiatric"help too"

Ethical Definition:
again the same question i feel the same as idid before i'm glad you all are paying me by the hour otherwise i woul resent having to answer the same question over and over again


Other Choices:
not shoplifted found something else to do

Whose Opinions:
my friends ie fellow members of ou r shopping  lifting crew

Ethical Definition:
honesty truthfulness having a set of behaviurly standards for one self the golden rule


Ethical Definition:
having integrity with oneself and the world


Other Choices:
I could have left him earlier and not let him take my property and my car, boat and all my belongings due to fear.  I really regret ever getting involved with my second husband .  All he did was take everything I had worked very hard for and then he beat

Frequency of Recollection:
Daily, I have flashbacks of the bruitality that has happed to me and  I try to control them by grounding or transendental medication.

Wish Done Differently:
I am trying to hard to get over these things and  every day I ask for gods help and protection and love to guide me.  I know I didnt deserve these terrible things that happen to me and I consantly pray, evan when people think I am doing something I alway

Now Other Choices:
I really am glad the whole experience is over and the loss of all of my hard work towards building the 2 homes Bob stoled from me are an example of what I built and was almost killed for.  I just hope he doesn't sucseed in his plan of having me killed be

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Everyday I feel I made the wrong desision about marring bob and I honestlly wish I would have never met him.

Now Wish Done Differently:
I really do not believe that I should have had to go through such abuse, because I was a good faith wife till I finally divorsed him.  I hope in the future and can help women in the same type of situation and I am attending a class for it now .  I really want to help the women in my situation and I have so much experience I can really relate to them and there predicaments.

Whose Opinions:
I listen to other people and their opinions but usually I stick by what is right.  You see I was raized to always do the right thing know matter what.  From the age of 1 you know the difference between right and wrong.  My problem is the men I got involved with were not like me they wanted destruction and bad things and I only wanted good.

Ethical Definition:
Someone who has morals and trys to do the right thing.


Other Choices:
I should have just walked out which I evently did after he beat me almost to a pulp somedays latter

Frequency of Recollection:
I think about it alot because as I have explained I which I never got involved with this man


Whose Opinions:
Everyone's, especially my mom's and the people in our church.


Whose Opinions:
The neighbors from whom I had taken the wallet.


Ethical Definition:
Being an ethical person means making decisions based on an external, unvarying standard of right and wrong that doesn't vary. This frequently means making a decision and behaving in ways that are unselfish and difficult personally. Sacrificing your perso


Other Choices:
The only other option would have been to allow things to go on as they were.  I thought that would have been wrong to her.

Frequency of Recollection:
Not much if at all.  I can't remember the name of the person.  I suppose that is how much I wanted our friendship to end.

Wish Done Differently:
No recollection at all.  Although I do hope that the person has had a great life.  I meant her no harm only the best.

Now Other Choices:
I could have left things the way they were.  But I thought that was wrong of me and certainly not fair to her.

Whose Opinions:
I thought that if I kept things going the way they were based on the wat I felt about them that they would evenually become quite angry with me for a number of reasons.  I was going to release the relationship regardless of the person's opinion or anyone elses had I considered them.

Ethical Definition:
Understanding what is right and fair and acting on it.


Frequency of Recollection:
Occassionally; if the item was really expensive.

Now Other Choices:
Two things.   Leave the item in the store or not hide the shopping just let it all hang out.  I just did not want the lip-service from Mr. Man

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I don't think about it.  If the item was really expensive and could a severe financial challenge then I might give it more thought.

Whose Opinions:
Yes the spouse, because he is on the receiving end.  I buy for him in the same way at times and that does seem to bother him.


Other Choices:
Only one different option comes to mind.  I could have gone to the meeting with the project incomplete and just said sorry.

Frequency of Recollection:
I don't have a number of time but I have thought about it many times since.  I put myself in a vulnerable situation that actually came back to haunt me in the end.

Wish Done Differently:
A fwe times now that I have been taken advantage of by this person.

Now Other Choices:
Just one.  Just show up at the meeting with incomplete work and see what happened.  As it turns out this person did not value the "extra mile" and dedication to perfection.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
In the last two weeks almost everyday and thoughout the day as well.  Again it is only because the person did no value such dedicationna d actullu took advantage of such dedication.

Now Wish Done Differently:
I still think I would have done what I did.  I feel as though I must do what I delieve is thr right thing to do whether the other person is a jerk or not.  Also if you don't know the other person is a jerk before you do what is right , oh well.  I have to live with my decision to do what I know is right.  I went the extra mile and will get paid larger and better for it later.  She loses not me.

Whose Opinions:
I thought about the contactor.  She trusted me with her work materials and I believed I was responsible to follow through on completing the project.  The contractor's opinion of my work ethics was important to me.

Ethical Definition:
Balance with what the right thing is and actually doing it.


Now Other Choices:
I think I made the right decision by not taking anything in the bag.

Now Wish Done Differently:
No, I think I did the right thing not taking anything in the bag


Other Choices:
Nothing at all I was happy and I thought I was donig the right thing.


Other Choices:
Maybe nothing because my cousin was really up to it and no one can stop him.

Frequency of Recollection:
Maybe about twice, but I try to forget about it.

Wish Done Differently:
Maybe twice, thinking I caould have stop him.

Now Other Choices:
I think now that I'm thinking about, I probably could have done a lot back then.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I always think about it cause, because it's embarassing

Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes, I could have just walk away from it.


Other Choices:
I have no choice cause I have to tell my Wife that I have a Job, or else we will always have an arguement.

Frequency of Recollection:
After I got a real job, I just dont want to think about it anymore.

Wish Done Differently:
Probably not even once, because I want to put it behind me.

Now Other Choices:
I think it would be better if I just talk to my wife and told her the truth, that I was having a hard time getting a job.

Ethical Definition:
Ethical for me is a type of respect you view your life to do the right thing.


Ethical Definition:
ethical is for a person to judge but wonder in back of there what it would be like


Whose Opinions:
opinions did or do not matter to me then or now for we all think and live different and express our filling in different ways

Ethical Definition:
ethical is what you think is right at that moment many years ago people were stoned for there ethics because other people thought that was not ethical only brainless people say they have ethics


Ethical Definition:
ethical is smething that is taught to you about right or wrong but if you found a suit case with a million dollars in it would you do the right thing and turn it in or do the right thing and keep it so what is ethical


Whose Opinions:
opinion that I considered was the buyers for I wanted them to have the best quailty stuff and start a referal with there friends

Ethical Definition:
ethical is what I fill is right a the moment other people mit not agree o well such is life


Whose Opinions:
to stay and live with this and every time I would be late my wife would think I would be with someone else

Ethical Definition:
ethical is someone who make discions from a book


Ethical Definition:
ethical is what I thought was right to me a that time if you fullfill someones wants and needs that is ethical


Ethical Definition:
ethical is what a person belives is right even thought it mit not be but that is there opinion


Other Choices:
been calmer, not yelled, not got angry, talked things out


Other Choices:
talked things out, not got angry, not hung up the phone

Now Other Choices:
talked things out, not got angry, not hung up the phone, called her back to work things out

Ethical Definition:
good morals and values, an honest person, always does the right thing


Now Other Choices:
realized the seriousness of his condition and made time to see him


Now Wish Done Differently:
no - it was a part of growing up. A lerning experience of what NOT to do in life.

Ethical Definition:
Living within the core values and mores of family and society.  Living within the tenants of God.


Other Choices:
Two.  Lifted as I did or (in retrospect) asked the owner to float me a loan.

Now Other Choices:
Two.  Asked the owner for the supplies and pay them later or perhaps borrowed the supplies from other students.

Whose Opinions:
My Mother, Family , Me and the Store owner.

Ethical Definition:
Living within the morales, values and mores of society and family.


Ethical Definition:
Living within the values & mores of family & society.  Living in the light of God


Now Wish Done Differently:
yes.  This comes out of OUR monies and it is dishonest to deceive him.

Ethical Definition:
Person living within the laws, values, mores of our society and family.  Making choices that don't harm others. Living within the boundries of our Creator.


Other Choices:
One.  Could have traveled back and forth more (NY - LA)

Wish Done Differently:
Several - wish I had gone back home to LA more.

Now Other Choices:
Two.  Traveled back home more or done a 3-6 months on and 3-6 months off.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes, only to have spent more time traveling between the cities.

Ethical Definition:
Living within the mores, values and laws of your society.  Living within the tenants of your spiritualuality


Other Choices:
Three.  Tell my current boyfriend about my lover or tell my lover I cannot see him till I end my current relationship or cheat.

Now Other Choices:
Two.  Tell my boyfriend about my lover and tell my lover I could not engage in a relationship until I ended my other relationship.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Absolutely.  I don't feel good about the choice I made then.  Some of it was out of fear (of losing my lover), not to justify it, but I cannot imagine doing this again.

Ethical Definition:
Living within the laws, mores, and values of your society.


Other Choices:
Two.  Tell friends I had 16 shares and did they want one or do what I did and made it more urgent to get what they got.

Frequency of Recollection:
Often.  I was in sales then and considered this a kudo. The laws of sales is make the customer feel like they are getting the prize and the quantities are limited.

Wish Done Differently:
None.  Everyone got to win on this one.  We had a fabulous Summer.

Now Other Choices:
Two.  Tell them the truth (16 shares available - do you want in) or there's a limited amount, hurray before they all go.

Now Wish Done Differently:
No. It was a selling game and a win-win situation.

Ethical Definition:
Living within the confines of what makes me feel okay - in my teachings and my upbringing. There is a God


Other Choices:
Three.  Stayed in my room  and honored my relationship or gone to the after-party or invited my boyfriend.

Frequency of Recollection:
Tons...everyday it seemed for a long time.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Absolutely.  The look on his face told the story.  I would not want to put someone in that space again nor do I want to expereince those circumstances.

Whose Opinions:
The hot guy asking me, my boyfriend, my friends.

Ethical Definition:
Living within the structural laws, rules and values of your society.


Whose Opinions:
I did not consider opinion, only my gut feelings.


Other Choices:
Just one discipline my son, perhap not so physicaly.

Now Other Choices:
Probbly only one, to discispline my son, but not as rough.

Whose Opinions:
I considered my daughter's opinion and her crying about getting hit or socked or punched without provoking itand  about how to even out the score in an equitable way and not meaning for my son to trip or fall or hurt himself.

Ethical Definition:
Ethical means to me the appropriate or correct action for everyone closely connected or effected by a certain situation.


Other Choices:
Two, try what I did or not have tryed to import Marijuana  at the US-Mexico border.

Now Other Choices:
Just the two memtioned before, did it or not.

Whose Opinions:
I didn.t consider opionions, but rather economic gains.


Other Choices:
Did what i did, and challenge my ex-wife's judgement and or her new husband's plan to remove mine and my ex-wife's son  from the house or 2) have my son come and live with me even though, most of the time there's no oone at my house, because  i"m not mar

Frequency of Recollection:
It hasn't been a year yet, but I don't think much about it because it was virtually the only decision I could make-it was my son's future. I didn't want him to feel abandont.

Now Other Choices:
Two. Embarrass my ex-wife and her new spouse, or shame them for trying to sent my son away, and 2) have my son come live with me with litle or no supervision when I  wasn't home.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Two times, recounting the situation to my sister and telling it to my (girlfriend) femail friend.

Whose Opinions:
I did not consider anyones opinion because this was a dicision I would have to live and stand by, thats not to say that if I thought that my son could live with me, responsibly and not get into trouble in my absance, the whole senario  could change.

Ethical Definition:
Ethical for me means the most appropriate and justifiable action for everyone most closely connected or effected by a situation.


Other Choices:
Two things, just let this young girl be picked on by her classmates for waering the same clothing or help her with some new inexpensive clothes.

Whose Opinions:
I did not consider opinions, but rather this girls feelings.


Whose Opinions:
There is no ones opinion to consider, just my own personal feelings and the use of my time.


Other Choices:
Two, taken the food item or not taken this food item.

Now Other Choices:
Two, taken the item or not taken the item.

Whose Opinions:
I did not consider opinions, rather eating the food and sharing it with my co-workers.


Other Choices:
2 start the reltionship, continue it  etc. or have done nothing. This relationship had no effect on my pal friendship with me.

Now Other Choices:
2, continue the sexual relationship or not start it at all.

Whose Opinions:
I only considered my own personal feelings and what I got as the girl's feelings of happiness.


Other Choices:
2, taken the film or not taken the film.

Now Other Choices:
2, taken the film or not taken the film.


Whose Opinions:
I only considered my own wants and needs.


Other Choices:
2, try the attempt to cross with the drugs or not try anything.

Now Other Choices:
Basically two, attempt to bring the drugs over from Mexico, or not try anything at all.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Three or four times, especially when applying for employment.

Whose Opinions:
I didn't consider anyones opinion,just my gut feelings.


Whose Opinions:
I didn't consider anyone's opinions.-I considered my feelins; my kid's feelings then and in the future, and tried to create  a nurturing  feeling around my kids and me.


Other Choices:
Basically two, remained firends and do nothig and say nothing or 2) remain friends and encourage her to seek employment and stay on her but to improve herself.

Whose Opinions:
I didn't consider opinions, but rather my own feelins and how the person I'm encouraging would feel when they reached their goal.


Other Choices:
We could have not had him put to sleep, but then he would have starved to death.

Wish Done Differently:
I could not have done anything different.

Now Other Choices:
I could have let him starve to death instead of putting him to sleep.

Now Wish Done Differently:
I could not have done anything different.

Whose Opinions:
We considered the vet's experience with this particular kind of tumor.


Other Choices:
The only option for me was to have talked to her, which I did.

Now Other Choices:
I really could not have done anything else at that time.

Whose Opinions:
My own experiences with hormonal changes.  My own experiences with acting immaturely.  My own experiences not looking at the entire truth.

Ethical Definition:
What one believes is the "right" or good or moral thing to do.


Other Choices:
Just about anything.  I volunteer my time and talent to do this work without payment.  I could selfishly have used that time.

Frequency of Recollection:
I think about it always.  Now that I am working full-time in an extremely stressful job and am very tired, I always would prefer to sleep in on my days off instead of going to the hospital and give more of myself.

Now Other Choices:
I could have done anything else with my time.  However, I feel like this is the reason I was put on this earth, my purpose for being here.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I think about it all the time.  I wish I was wealthy so I could do this work all the time, instead of killing myself for a job.

Whose Opinions:
No opinions.  Only that I was compelled to do this work.

Ethical Definition:
What one believes is right or good or moral.


Whose Opinions:
My own opinion that stealing is not right


Other Choices:
I could have decided to not live with my boyfriend.

Wish Done Differently:
At the time, I didn't want to do anything else.

Now Other Choices:
I could have not told my parents, but that wouldn't have been right.  I could have not moved in with my boyfriend, but I wanted to.  I could have gotten married, which we eventually did, but did not do at that time.


Other Choices:
I could have left my boyfriend.  I could have not had an affair.  I could have told my boyfriend.

Now Other Choices:
I could have left my boyfriend, I could have not had an affair.  I could have told my boyfriend.

Whose Opinions:
I considered my boyfriend's opinion that he did not want to get married.


Now Other Choices:
3 .....cheated, not cheated, studied harder( I don't know if this qualifies becauae it wasn't in the moment, per se)

Ethical Definition:
Never wanting to hurt anyone is still my  main basis for most of my judgements and in this case it's a matter of personal honor so the person I'm hurting is me.


Now Other Choices:
Same three but only technically. I woldn't have wanted to do anything else but give the money all back.

Whose Opinions:
Nobody's- except perhaps my folks, but I already knew what they had taught me.


Other Choices:
I was 7...I could have not kicked her or kicked her , as I did.


Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes but onhy because I missed playing in that game.


Other Choices:
I COULD  HAVE TURNED IT IN TO THE TEACHER IN CHARGE, OR ASK THE OTHER KIDS WHO HAD LOST THE NECKLACE

Now Other Choices:
TELL THE TEACHER ABOUT IT, ASK THE KIDS AROUND IF IT BELONGED TO SOMEONE.

Whose Opinions:
aT THAT AGE, i DIDN'T EVEN THINK ABOUT ANYTHING EXCEPT HAVING THE CURIOUSITY OF WHAT WAS LAYING ON THE GROUND AND WHY WAS IT SO SHINING.

Ethical Definition:
SOMEONE WHO KNOWS RIGHT FROM WRONG, AND YOU ARE ABLE TO DO WHAT IS RIGHT AND HAVE CONSIDERATION OF OTHER PEOPLE'S FEELINGS, NEEDS, AND WANTS


Other Choices:
Just leave the lies about the photoshop skills, and take some courses on photoshop, check out librar;y books on this skill, or just ask around who knew about this, and not worry, because alot of jobs give you training anyway and there's always a way to a

Now Other Choices:
Maybe refrase it, put in other components that would fit in that skill, such as other computer skills using picture clipboard etc.

Whose Opinions:
I did somewhat consider the opionions about the employers doing the hiring, but most and most important my opinion was stronger.

Ethical Definition:
It's what you think is right from wrong, and one wants to do what is morally right and not have any guilty feelings, the belief that there are things that are morally right and there are things that are morally wrong. If you think about what is morally r


Other Choices:
I could have just given the items to Salvation Army or Goodwill, or put out on the curb for anyone to help themselves or sell them at a garage sale, but I chose to give the goods to strangers who are homeless, hungry and out living in the street in the c

Now Other Choices:
give to goodwill or salvation army, have a yard sale or let it sit in the garage collecting dust and webs

Whose Opinions:
the people who are in need of this goods, and the happy feeling they would feel when they get these donations.

Ethical Definition:
someone who cares, has compassion for other people and wants to do good all the time


Other Choices:
ask my friend who was putting things down, cleaning etc, ask her was she sure we could have the candle holders and candles, or go ask other employees in charge, as the one person who offered these to us was fairly new at the job, and perhaps she didn't k

Now Other Choices:
ASK OTHER CO-WORKERS THERE AT THE OFFICE PARTY IF IT WAS OK TO TAKE THE CANDLES, IF THEY WERE DISCARDING THEM, OR ASK WHO HAD BROUGHT IN THE CANDLES AND THEN ASK THAT PERSON IF IT WAS OK TO TAKE AS WE WERE OFFERED THESE ITEMS.

Whose Opinions:
i JUST THOUGHT THAT SINCE THAT PERSON WAS OFFERING THE ITEMS TO US, THEY MUST NOT WANT THEM AND WERE OF NO VALUE ANYWAY.

Ethical Definition:
THE ABILITY OF KNOWING RIGHT FROM WRONG AND BEING WILLING TO DO THE RIGHT THING, HAVING CONSIDERATION OF OTHER PEOPLE'S NEEDS, OPINIONS AND RESPECT.


Other Choices:
WATCHED THE CARD PLAYING GAME MORE AND LEARN ABOUT THE RULES, OR KEEP ASKING QUESTIONS

Now Other Choices:
aSK TO BE EXPLAINED THE RULES AGAIN, AND OBSERVE MORE CAREFULLY

Whose Opinions:
oPINIONS ABOUT PEOPLE NOT TRUSTING YOU AGAIN, OR NOT WANTING TO PLAY WITH YOU.

Ethical Definition:
A PERSON WHO'S FAIR AND HONEST AND DOES THE RIGHT THING MOST OF THE TIME


Other Choices:
I could have just politely told the mother that I wished the best for her being able to provide for  her son, or referred her to a clothes bank etc.

Now Other Choices:
Referred her to a Clothes Bank, salvation army, second hand store or just wished her well.

Whose Opinions:
I considered the opinions of the staff person from the Church where I go and inquired about this clothing for this family, I considered whether it might be possible or not, whether this was something within their scope to do for this family.

Ethical Definition:
Ethical means that you stand by your beliefs, helping others in times of need, being honest and know right from wrong.


Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes. I wish I had remembered to return the books right away.

Ethical Definition:
Ethical means striving to do right in accordance with the moral principles outlined in the Bible.


Ethical Definition:
Following or abiding by the moral teachings and principles given or spelled out in the Bible.


Now Wish Done Differently:
Not really. My brothers were always bothering me so I don't feel very sorry for them. I was usually the "good" kid.

Ethical Definition:
Governing one's words, actions and behavior in accordance with the moral principles and teachings of the Bible.


Now Wish Done Differently:
No, not really. I think the lesson was valuable and has influenced my behavior in a positive way sense then.

Ethical Definition:
Behaving in a way that is consistent with a biblically-based code of right and wrong behavior.


Now Wish Done Differently:
Not really, I feel that I learned some valuable lessons that have served me the rest of my life.

Ethical Definition:
Behaving in a way that is consistent with the moral doctrines and principes found in the Bible.


Ethical Definition:
Striving to abide by the moral teachings


Now Wish Done Differently:
Most definitely. It is the only thing in my life I would go back and do differently if I could.

Whose Opinions:
I considered the opinions of my friends and aquaintances at Whittier Junior High School.

Ethical Definition:
Behaving in a manner that is consistent with a biblically-base code of right and wrong conduct, striving to do right.


Now Wish Done Differently:
Not really. It hasn't been that big of a deal to me.

Ethical Definition:
Striving to live in accordance with the moral principles taught in the Holy Bible.


Whose Opinions:
The guy she was with and whoever it was that I was seeing at the time. Also the friends I had in the buddhist community.

Ethical Definition:
doiong what is socially responsible in spite of the pull one may experience to do otherwise.


Whose Opinions:
probably my friends who were in the car with me


Ethical Definition:
Doing the right thing. Not harming others. Being conscious of how ones own behaivoir affects others.


Whose Opinions:
perhaps the really smart kids who actually took the time to study for tests


Whose Opinions:
the opinions of the young women who were being frightened and also of my bosses.

Ethical Definition:
doing the right thing regardless of how uncomfortable it makes you feel.


Now Other Choices:
I could have just stayed home not very many options to do but stay home at night rather than sneak out to go dancing especially at a  young age there's nowhere to go after midnight looking so young

Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes, I wish I was more articiulate with talking with family memebrs about going places together like to the drive-in with my parents and brother but instead I chose to be with friends and getting into trouble

Ethical Definition:
Ethical = Is the way a person should morally act in today society, something in the way of good natured and politically right


Other Choices:
I could have had everyone sit in the car the proper way and pay to get in, but what fun is that no excitement

Frequency of Recollection:
Never, that I can remember? Not once, I guess.

Now Other Choices:
Of course I had other options, I could have just made everyone get into the car properly and have each of them pay there way in or I could have just stayed home or gone out to a friends house

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Never ever thought about this situation at all. Not once.

Whose Opinions:
I considered all the opinions of all the people who went with me to the movies we all talked and discussed how we would do this but in reality I was the one doing this because if we got caught I would be the person responsible for everyone that is me being the driver

Ethical Definition:
Ethical = How strict our morals are and what they allow us to do in today's society with being preceived in a bad light


Frequency of Recollection:
Often.  I think about my Dad all the time, but I don't dwell on my decision, wrong as it may have been.  I was too hurt and too stuburon.  It hurt me so much to have my Dad believe my sicko brother and turn my Dad against not just me, but my younger sist

Wish Done Differently:
At least ten times since he passed away.

Now Other Choices:
One.  I should have called him, he was my father.  I should have been the bigger person.  I know now that my brother took advantage of my father and was able to brain wash him into believing a pack of lies.  My brother is an evil person and does things t

Now Frequency of Recollection:
At least 10.  I really can't give it a number, I think of my Dad often, I don't always tbink about the "fight" we had.  I try to think about happy moments with him, at times it's difficult, I guess it depends on my own frame of mind at the time I think a

Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes.  I know in my heart of hearts I should have called him.  He was my father.  Whenever he said or did things to hurt me and my sister, he would always blame it on his age.  I felt that it was just a cop out.  My Dad had selective memory loss, not Alsheimers.  He still had it together, even at his age...

Whose Opinions:
I would speak to my younger sister, the one who was also accused by my brother of stealing from my Dad.  She too was devestaed and also chose on her own to not speak to my father.  My brother turned both my sisters and my world upside down.  After he convinced my father that my sister and I were stealing money from him and had been for years, my brother started a letter writing campaign.  He took the time and went to the County Recorders office and found out the names of all of the people who lived on my block.  In this letter, he accuses my sister and I of stealling from my father and urges them not to speak to us.  My neighbors knew my father and they knew me.  They knew that my sister nor I were capable of doing such a thing, and one by one, brought the letters to my home and told me they did not believe my brother and wanted no part of him or his sick games.

Ethical Definition:
To be ethical, you must do the right thing, even if it doesn't benefit you in any way and it does not hurt others.


Whose Opinions:
the person I was with and the peron I was talking to

Ethical Definition:
doing the best for the good of all so that there is not harm to anyone


Frequency of Recollection:
very otten  becaue it was repetitive behaviour

Wish Done Differently:
as time went on, less often; more belief in my behaviour as necessary

Whose Opinions:
family members and couple close friends I confided in

Ethical Definition:
acting with the bet intent for the good of all,


Whose Opinions:
my friends who I would discuss the incident with

Ethical Definition:
acting fot  the highest good for all, including myself without mal intent


Frequency of Recollection:
often, I'm sure but too difficult to remember count

Whose Opinions:
Frank, people we worked with including the person I cheated on him with, anyone who might find out

Ethical Definition:
acting for the highest good wtihout hurting anyone else


Wish Done Differently:
not differenet but perhaps somethiing additional

Whose Opinions:
friends and asociates, mine hers and people at the cancer center

Ethical Definition:
considering the  general good of all people, myself included without any malinteent


Now Frequency of Recollection:
two or three--sometimes when see the person

Whose Opinions:
I may have considered his opinion as that is my nature  and if little offense, continued with my decision

Ethical Definition:
actinf for the highet good of all without malintent


Ethical Definition:
acting  for the highest good of all living creatures


Whose Opinions:
his and his wife and the other class members

Ethical Definition:
acting for the hioghest good of all wihtout hurting any one else


Ethical Definition:
the behavior that you don't do as a norm in the society you are living


Now Wish Done Differently:
May be since it is an emotional feeling and it is really hard to control


Now Wish Done Differently:
of course. I wish a great many things had been different

Ethical Definition:
thinking about how your actions affect others


Whose Opinions:
nobody's opinion...not that it would matter when it comes to something as basic as a gag reaction when faced with someone else's excretions


Whose Opinions:
why, the girlfriend who was teaching me how to smoke, of course


Now Frequency of Recollection:
once or twice...each time I run into the couple, I imagine, I think about it even now

Whose Opinions:
clearly, I was listening to no voice of reason at the time at all

Ethical Definition:
thinking about how your actions affect others, accent on the "thinking"


Ethical Definition:
The ability to reason, discern and act based upon what is right and what is wrong .


Other Choices:
I could have chose to lie about the situation, or say nothing at all.

Now Other Choices:
I could have chose to lie about it, or say nothing at all.

Ethical Definition:
A person who lives based on moral values and what's right.


Other Choices:
I could have not pressed the accelerator.

Whose Opinions:
My grandfather, grandmother, and my mother.

Ethical Definition:
Aperson who lives based on moral values and what's right.


Other Choices:
I could have chosen not to participate in this fraudulent activity.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I thought about this episode at least once this past year.

Now Wish Done Differently:
I wish that I'd done something different.

Whose Opinions:
My family, friends, and commanding officer.

Ethical Definition:
A person who lives by good moral values and what's right.


Other Choices:
I could have left the wallet and money alone. I could have also told my sister where the wallet had fallen.

Wish Done Differently:
I wish that I'd done something different about 2 times.

Now Other Choices:
I could have left the wallet alone, told my sister, or picked everything up and placed it back on the dresser.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes, I wish that I'd done something different.

Ethical Definition:
Aperson who lives based on good moral values and what's right.


Other Choices:
I should have never started the affair, or remained as friends only, or helped her in the situation.

Frequency of Recollection:
I thought about this at least 100 times in the year following this episode.

Wish Done Differently:
I wish that I'd done something different over 100 times during the year after this episode.

Now Other Choices:
I could have prevented the affair altogether, or helped her as a friend only.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I've thought about this about 3 times in the past year.


Other Choices:
I could have kept the fifty dollar bil, or turned it in to management.

Now Other Choices:
I could have kept the fifty dollar bill, or turned it into management.

Whose Opinions:
My supervisor, co-workers, and the manager.


Other Choices:
I could have talked to Micheal for Brenda to solve their dispute.

Frequency of Recollection:
I thought about it at least 10 times during the year after it happened.

Wish Done Differently:
In the year following I wished that I had done something different at least 5 times.

Now Other Choices:
I could have talked to Micheal about his upseting Brenda, Or I could have told Brenda to speak with Micheal, or I could have not participated at all.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I didn't think about it again until the study.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes, I wish I had done something different.

Ethical Definition:
A person who live their life based on good moral values and what's right.


Other Choices:
I could have ended the relationship with my girlfriend.I could have prevented getting involved with another woman, or I could just be single.

Now Other Choices:
Ended the relationship with my girlfriend.


Frequency of Recollection:
I thought about this about 20 times during the year after.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I thought about this episode at least twice.

Ethical Definition:
A person who lives based on good morals and what's right.


Whose Opinions:
I considered the opinions of my parents and teacher.

Ethical Definition:
Doing the right thing based on good morals and values


Frequency of Recollection:
None - only if it was brought up, in good humor, by my family.

Whose Opinions:
I considered the opinions of my family members playing the game and asked them if they were o.k. with it.


Other Choices:
It's not like I planned to do it... I just never got the work done and returned to the office.

Whose Opinions:
My boss, the company I had worked for, my friends amd family

Ethical Definition:
Doing the right thing - based on good morals and values


Ethical Definition:
Doing the right thing based on good morals and values.


Ethical Definition:
Doing the right thing, based on good morals and values.


Other Choices:
Could have allowed sister-in-law to botch things up, not care for "ex" and not reopen divorce case.

Frequency of Recollection:
I was involved in a law case that I opened so it was everyday and many times throughout the day.

Wish Done Differently:
Under the circumstances, I felt there was no other choice.

Whose Opinions:
I asked my daughjter and son because this action (reopening divoice) involved their dad.

Ethical Definition:
Knowing the difference between right and wrong and doing the right thing.


Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes because even though it was a joke, it was wrong.


Other Choices:
Could have told my husband to throw away the phone number.

Now Other Choices:
I could have ignored the situation or I could have expressed my opinion about keeping the phone number.

Now Wish Done Differently:
It bothered me that hubby kept this phone number and wish I had of expressed that opinion.

Ethical Definition:
It is knowing the difference between right and wrong and doing the right thing.


Other Choices:
I could have said NO to sponsoring my son-in-law but I wanted to make my daughter happy about marrying.

Now Other Choices:
Could have not sponsored him.  Could not have allowed them to live with me after they married..  No financial help.

Whose Opinions:
Did not ask anyone nor did I think to ask.  It was my own choice.

Ethical Definition:
It is knowing what the difference is between right and wrong and doing the right thing.


Other Choices:
several, do other , not help, other vocations easily, lackadaisical as most

Frequency of Recollection:
several, change has occured do to canadiens drugs for the better, perhaps better business habitsfor economic growth of myself

Wish Done Differently:
several , better business procedures , more harder business tactics, follow through

Now Other Choices:
i am multi- talented , so i can do other things and not get involved , but i thought this was best

Now Frequency of Recollection:
several,  things still need to change , still do  a little so i see changes for the better and worst

Now Wish Done Differently:
just the follow through , need to committ in a cause , still thoroughly believe in it

Whose Opinions:
only from roomate and  a few close friends for feed back

Ethical Definition:
best for all , proper, easy to decide and no doubts down the road on decisions made


Other Choices:
several , explain to her , curiousity ,did me in , helped her in many ways , wasn't hurting her , old perscription , just loooked bad at time

Frequency of Recollection:
several , just needed to explain actions at time

Wish Done Differently:
several, haven't heared from her , just needed to come out front with my decision

Now Other Choices:
basically be a coser friend and talk to her before action on my part

Now Frequency of Recollection:
several , just gave her the wrong idea about myself , explain it was old and meaningless really , but  was  sneaky and  could of asked instead

Now Wish Done Differently:
yes , basically ask for it , she would of got better feeling toward me , it was wortless but most of all gave doubt in honesty toward me

Whose Opinions:
nobodys , should of asked , was the proper thing to do , i did not since i felt being old and insignificant to her was meaningless

Ethical Definition:
beyond question, always the right thindg to do , even if its meaningless


Other Choices:
this was normal back then to extend beyond needed , i was injured to a point , but could of managed

Frequency of Recollection:
not much, others understood since it was more normal to stay home and collect benefits

Wish Done Differently:
none , i kept busy in other vocations making money even working 60 - 75 hours of work

Now Other Choices:
just end sick leave sooner and gone back instead of working other jobs

Now Frequency of Recollection:
none , it's the past , current problems exist , what i did was more acceptable and understood back then

Now Wish Done Differently:
hard to say , younger and differentobjections were in mind to make the most of circumstances


Now Other Choices:
talk to her, but brain injury, makes it hard for her proper deecision making

Now Frequency of Recollection:
zero, i think about her daily, she has many other health problems coming up , moved back with family

Now Wish Done Differently:
a little . , but my back ground in health is to protect, what i did was right, would do it again, she has many problems

Whose Opinions:
i only considered her welfare, only chance to advise and take control

Ethical Definition:
to do the proper thing, best for all .same decision over again, will do the same but better  i guees


Other Choices:
I could have done only one other thing and that was not to cheat but I choose to take the high road.

Wish Done Differently:
I didn't think much about it after the this episode.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I have not thought about this at all in the past year.

Now Wish Done Differently:
I don't think I would do anything differently today.

Ethical Definition:
moral actions taken that reflect on what people consider right.


Frequency of Recollection:
I thought about it allot because I always had financial problems back then, and I always imagined what it would be like to never have to worry about money again.

Wish Done Differently:
I thought about several times but always knew that I had made the right decision.

Now Wish Done Differently:
yes, I think I am more bold today and would have taken the proposition now.

Whose Opinions:
just the person that prersented the opportunity to me.


Other Choices:
only one and that would have been to tell the truth.

Frequency of Recollection:
I thought about it everytime he would bring it up.

Wish Done Differently:
maybe just the one time that I thought that maybe I should have just told him the truth, and all this mess would not have taken place.

Now Wish Done Differently:
no, because I consider this a little white lie that should not have been blown up to be anything other than that.


Other Choices:
Many, because I could have taken many different path at an age when many are unsure of their goals in life.

Frequency of Recollection:
Many times during the following year because it brought much joy and satisfaction into my life.


Other Choices:
I could have just asked the caretaker their if I could take the book. So, I had one other option.

Frequency of Recollection:
I might have thought about it once or twice, only because someone else brought it up.

Ethical Definition:
my personal feelings of right choices in life.


Frequency of Recollection:
daily, since I walked to school with "Scottie," so it had to have been constant for a while

Wish Done Differently:
probably none, since at the time I thought that recusing myself from the joke would have infringed on this novel sense of being one with the popular kids

Now Frequency of Recollection:
specifically, probably never, but the lesson I learned from it has been ingrained ever since

Now Wish Done Differently:
I guess, but that presupposes that I had already learned this lesson by doing something crappy elsewhere so we'd just be discussing this with different particulars

Whose Opinions:
the peer group that had the idea initially. Oh wait, I just remembered, it was my idea.

Ethical Definition:
thinking of the results of your actions on others


Wish Done Differently:
whenever I considered it (which was a couple of times)

Whose Opinions:
my nephew's, the one who ended up with the torn poster


Frequency of Recollection:
probably never, it being such a small part of the bigger family death picture

Wish Done Differently:
again, I probably never thought about this aspect of the event at all

Ethical Definition:
I'll still go with thinking about how your actions affect others


Frequency of Recollection:
quite a few, probably, but I can't think of a number. in the dozens, certainly

Wish Done Differently:
none. I don't know that doing it differently was really an option

Ethical Definition:
thinking about how your actions will affect others


Other Choices:
Not get involved with the girl.  Respect my brother's feelings.  Not be so selfish, self-absorbed.

Frequency of Recollection:
Numerous times.  I was also drafted and served with my brother in Vietnam.  He knew I was so sorry for what I did and we grew past it.  We probably just grew up.

Wish Done Differently:
five, six, seven times.  I always felt ashamed and guilty especially when his girlfriend and he broke up.

Now Other Choices:
Just stay away from her.  Respect my brother's feelings which basically just went out the window.

Whose Opinions:
Only mine.  At the time, I couldn't even weigh or consider other people's opinion's.

Ethical Definition:
Having moral actions and respect for other people


Now Wish Done Differently:
no taking care of a fellow soldier was my job and duty


Other Choices:
tons of different things.  Like really work hard and save my money instead of spending it

Now Other Choices:
at least two.  Finding more work,  Saving my money

Ethical Definition:
good moral fiber.  Trying to always do the right thing.


Other Choices:
Not steal from my parents.  I know better.  I needed to remain strong and not buy into this temptation.

Now Other Choices:
I could have raked leaves, washed cars, and asked other people for odds and end jobs.

Whose Opinions:
My mother's when she found out that I was a losing proposition.


Other Choices:
Just not participate in these games of chance.  Find something else to do.

Now Other Choices:
I could have just walked away instead I was caught up in the rush.

Ethical Definition:
having good moral judgement.  Having good moral character


Other Choices:
Discuss it with my parents.  Discuss it with my stockbroker.  Discuss it with my brother.

Now Other Choices:
For sure I could have waited until I saved up enough to buy a car.  I could have possibly, not likely, gotten by parents approval to make this risky investment.

Whose Opinions:
My parents for sure.  My peers who kepl cheering me on to go for it.

Ethical Definition:
Knowing the moral ramifications of your words and actions.


Other Choices:
Other than backtrack and search in the pouring rain for this individual, it would not have been at all easy.

Now Other Choices:
Go back to the spot where I picked him up.  Ride around in that general vicinity.  Possibly go back one day when it wasn't raining.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes.  I could have gone back on a dry sunny day and looked for this individual.

Ethical Definition:
Having a moral sense of what is right or wrong and acting on it.


Other Choices:
Kept my mouth shut and wished them well.


Ethical Definition:
soneone that considers the needs and wants of others as well as his or her own.


Other Choices:
could have been quiet, could have added recollections that were not about being gay

Ethical Definition:
someone who does the right thing even though it's difficult.


Ethical Definition:
a person who puts the needs and wants of others ahead of himself.


Ethical Definition:
somone who values another's wants and needs as much as his or her own


Other Choices:
I could pay the taxes, I could not write off my bsiness expenses

Now Other Choices:
quit the psychic line, pay taxes, not write off expenses

Ethical Definition:
An ethical person is one whose behavior is based upon consideration for others' wants and needs with his or her own.


Now Wish Done Differently:
yes, I wish I had confronted both the wife and her husband about the problem.

Ethical Definition:
is someone who considers the wants and needs of another or others when deciding what to do.


Ethical Definition:
a person who consider's another's wants and needs when making decisions about his or her behavior.


Other Choices:
calmed myself down before speaking to him, but I reacted to his yelling and instead of taking it as usual, I reacted in kind

Frequency of Recollection:
all the time; I had to go into therapy for a year, it bothered me so much.

Wish Done Differently:
every day, always. Its something that is always there in the back of my mind and I feel sick thinking about it

Now Other Choices:
Either ask him to calm down and talk about it later or just leave the room and hope he would talk to me later instead of exchanging harsh words

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Its literally never left me. I have dreams about it and cry over it to this day, almost 10 years later

Now Wish Done Differently:
yes. I wish I had just left on the next plane out of New Orleans as soon as I saw what was going on and confronted him calmly later

Whose Opinions:
nobody else was involved but I knew that this would all get back to my mother and she would be upset that my father and I had words

Ethical Definition:
someone who values themselves and others and basically the golden rule 'treat others the way you want to be treated'. someone who doesn't cheat, steal or lie


Other Choices:
I may not have limited myself to waiting for a man for 6 months without dating other people, but I would have been honest about it

Frequency of Recollection:
I thought about it a lot, as I might be marrying this person (I did) and wanted to make the right choice in life

Wish Done Differently:
a couple of times I wished I had dated a few other people, since I did not do much dating in my 30s

Now Other Choices:
dated other people while waiting for him to get to the US but my heart probably wouldn't have been in it.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
not many since we did get along and did end up marrying in the end

Now Wish Done Differently:
Dating others may have helped solidify that my decision to marry so quickly was right and that I was right to trust him so quickly

Ethical Definition:
making a decision, sticking to it and keeping your word


Other Choices:
I was the only one who knew certain things about dad's business. I suppose I could have asked my brother to call during certain hours only to avoid some of the stress. I lost two jobs as a result of all the phone calls and family drama

Frequency of Recollection:
all the time, there was no getting around it. My life revolved around this to the detriment of jobs and relationships

Wish Done Differently:
I wish I had imposed sanctions on the telephone calls to me at work so that I did not lose my job

Now Other Choices:
limit my brother and mother's phone calls to me during office hours. Demanded down time and taken a vacation and advised them to use the accountant and banker and business manager to better effect

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I've thought about it ever since it happened since it affected so many facets of my life

Now Wish Done Differently:
yes, I wish I had not reacted emotionally, but more intellectually

Whose Opinions:
at the time, I only thought of my family staying afloat, I did not consider anyone's express opinions

Ethical Definition:
doing things for others without expecting anything in return


Other Choices:
you cannot control who you are attracted to. You can control what you do about it and I chose to stop one relationship before pursuing another

Frequency of Recollection:
quite a bit because my boyfriend was a great guy but I did not feel ready to marry as he was the first man I ever dated, etc. and I had this attraction for this other guy. I knew marriage would not work if I felt that way at such a young age

Wish Done Differently:
I let the relationship drag for six months more than it should have because I felt guilty for having those feelings of attraction for this other gentleman.

Now Other Choices:
I would have broken up with my boyfriend sooner and alleviated my guilt and set him free to be with someone better suited to him

Now Wish Done Differently:
Let him go much sooner, as it wasn't fair to either of us for me to stay in a relationship out of kindness rather than love

Whose Opinions:
my boyfriend, my friends, his parents, my parents and our joint friends as well as the new guy in the picture as he was waiting for me to make a decision

Ethical Definition:
not cheating or lying and being honest and faithful


Other Choices:
not steal the test! Study for it like I had done on all other tests. If I failed the course, take it over and get tutored next time that particular test came around

Frequency of Recollection:
my girlfriend and I talked about it a few times after we did it, but I knew it was wrong and would not repeat it so I didn't think too much about it after that

Wish Done Differently:
She and I felt really bad and knew we were smart enough to pass the test without doing something so stupid, so we talked about it a couple of times. We actually didn't need the test, we could have passed it easily on our own

Now Other Choices:
Just said no! Sat in our room with junk food and studied like we usually did. Instead we had to rush to a photocopier place that was open after hours to copy the exam answers and ran ourselves ragged with worry and fear of being caught

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Haven't thought about it since the study, it was so long ago and such abberant behaviour for me

Now Wish Done Differently:
I wish I had not done it at all. I wish I had studied and taken whatever grade I deserved

Whose Opinions:
It was just myself and my friend in the class. We were convinced we would not get caught, so we did not consider anything at the time other than if we were in agreement with our actions

Ethical Definition:
being ethical means not to steal, lie or cheat and in this situation I did all three so I was not ethical at all


Other Choices:
waited until the man finished with the customer and he probably would have given me the candy or asked for it

Frequency of Recollection:
not too much, since it was more of an accident and not a conscious effort to steal

Wish Done Differently:
my parents gave me a talking to about manners, etc. so I really felt I had learned my lesson and didn't obsess on it

Now Other Choices:
waited for the man to give me the candy instead of helping myself, ask my mom for the candy and let her handle it instead of taking it upon myself to take it

Now Wish Done Differently:
I wish I had waited for the candy instead of taking it. But I might not have learned about taking things had I not done that. So I did learn a lesson early on.

Whose Opinions:
none-I thought I was 'due' the candy since it was given to me all the time so it didn't occur to my 3 year old mind

Ethical Definition:
stealing is not ethical but I didn't think of it as stealing at the time. I was simply taking something which was always given to me freely before.


Other Choices:
told my friend her fiance gave me bad vibes or something to that effect

Frequency of Recollection:
since he cheated within three months of the marriage, I felt tremendous guilt and pain for my friend. I felt I had let her down, even though this was her marriage and her relationship

Wish Done Differently:
all the time, I still feel guilty at 40! But I realize she has to bear some responsibility for not seeing his flirtatious ways and figure out what may happen as a result

Now Other Choices:
Today, I would tell a friend flat out that their man flirted with me and if a friend chose to marry that person and drop me as a friend for telling the truth, then the friendship must have been flawed anyway.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
none, she and I ended up falling out anyway right after I got married

Now Wish Done Differently:
I would have told her something at least. Maybe not that he flirted, but that I didn't care for his attitude or something.

Whose Opinions:
just my friend's, this was her fiance and her life

Ethical Definition:
ethical people should tell the truth, but I didn't in this case as I didn't feel it was my place or that I had all the facts. For all I knew, she could have been playing a prank on me in collusion wiht him (we'd done that sort of thing to each other in t


Other Choices:
I could have just told the other girls 'none of your business' and just let it go rather than dignify that kind of question with any answer

Frequency of Recollection:
I called my parents immediately and asked them to start proceedings to transfer me to a public school if this is what a 'Christian' school has to offer as its students.

Wish Done Differently:
a couple of times I wished I told the girls to mind their own business

Now Other Choices:
I definitely would not have answered them today. I would have also made a comment about them having no respect for themselves or others

Now Frequency of Recollection:
haven't thought about it for years, actually

Now Wish Done Differently:
I wish I had the nerve to tell them it was none of their business and to have asked them why they are so free with their bodies at such a young age

Whose Opinions:
a whole roomful of freshman girls. Everybody wants to fit in and be liked, especially at a new school and being there for four years among a small group of people who love gossip

Ethical Definition:
ethical people treat people the way they wish to be treated and with kindness. They respect themselves and others


Other Choices:
I could have told his mother that it was impossible for me to relocate to San Diego because I needed a job, or I could have just commuted on weekends, cooked and cleaned for a week's supply of errands, etc. and not gone there full time

Frequency of Recollection:
a lot because my finances were negatively affected as was my health. We broke up anyway because I ended up feeling like my good nature was abused

Wish Done Differently:
several. I wish I had just commuted on weekends and took care of him then, but I was taught to treat others with care and was very maternal at the time!

Now Other Choices:
Today I would never place myself in such financial jeapordy. I would have commuted and asked his mother to help out. It was her son after all and she lived closer and did not have to work as she was married to a wealthy man

Now Frequency of Recollection:
since it happened almost a decade ago I really hadn't given it that much thought until now

Now Wish Done Differently:
yes, I wish I had commuted and let his mother shoulder some of the burden instead of feeling so inclined to go well out of my way mileage-wise, financially and with my emotions. We were not engaged, but were living like a married couple, which I did not like

Whose Opinions:
my boyfriend's health, his mother and my family--afterwards. After all, I was an adult and could make my own decisions, not a minor who would have needed permission

Ethical Definition:
this is probably boring but I believe in treating people the way you want to be treated and to do things with love, not expecting anything in return


Other Choices:
call the police, get a restraining order on him and leave him sooner than I did

Frequency of Recollection:
a lot, as I worried about my new relationship and how his behaviour could affect it, I was constantly watching my back and even bought a new car so he would be less likely to be able to follow me around!

Wish Done Differently:
every day since I ended up a nervous wreck because of the stalking

Now Other Choices:
Called the police and filed reports after each incident (stalking) got a restraining order and not reacted to his constantly telling me he would commit suicide if I left him

Now Frequency of Recollection:
not much, but it did affect further dating as I didn't know if I was doing something to create his behavour

Now Wish Done Differently:
I should have gotten rid of him sooner or had someone intervene for me, I felt sorry for him and he played upon that

Whose Opinions:
I considered my boss as it was affecting my job and causing me embarassment, my mom for the phone interruptions in the middle of the night, etc.

Ethical Definition:
treat others the way you want to be treated, I did and got screwed for trying to care about someone else's feelings to my own detriment


Ethical Definition:
At a point of decision, to not take advantage of information or unknowns for the benefit of oneself over another


Ethical Definition:
conducting a cycle of decision with others involved whose intention is to find fair and common interest


Other Choices:
probably at the time, my only option was to have charlie stay with someone else. I could have just kept him with me and told my roommate to leave.

Frequency of Recollection:
I thought about this episode every time I saw a cat or other pet in my neiborhood for many years after I abandon him.

Wish Done Differently:
Many times during the year when I saw other animals around me.

Now Other Choices:
Thinking about it today, I realize that I could have done around three different things to make it a more pleasant transition for my cat. As mentioned earlier, I should have just kept him.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes, but it was so long ago that I don't even think about it anymore.

Whose Opinions:
I did not consider any ones opinions. The only opinion I considered was the person that wanted  my cat out.

Ethical Definition:
Ethical is our moral values that we hold dear to our hearts. It is the morally right choices that we make throughout our lives.


Other Choices:
I didn't have another options at the time.

Frequency of Recollection:
I thought about it daily. It consumed me every waking hour of the day and I found it hard not to think about it.

Wish Done Differently:
I thought about often, but it became more difficult as time passed on to do anything about it.

Whose Opinions:
my daughters father, who was the one who suggested that I sent my daughter to live with her grandmother.


Other Choices:
I probably could have done two other things, but decided on my choice because it was the right thing to do.

Frequency of Recollection:
not much, because I knew I had commited myself for a short period of time, and it was not going to affect my life at all.

Wish Done Differently:
I never thought of doing anything differently.

Now Other Choices:
I had only one other option that I could have taken then, but am happy today that I never carried it out.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I have not thought about this decision once this year.

Whose Opinions:
I considered only one more option at the time. My sister told me that she would be willing to take care of my mom for a short duration of the time she was immobile.

Ethical Definition:
Morally right decisions based on your true values that a person holds near and dear to their hearts.


Other Choices:
I could have found a way to move out on my own with the kids

Frequency of Recollection:
every day that I came home to a drunk husband

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Just about every day.... I left him just about a year ago

Now Wish Done Differently:
YES!  I wish I had the nerve to back out of it.

Ethical Definition:
To be ethical is to follow a prescribed set of moral rules of right and wrong


Other Choices:
I could have called and included Sally in the time spent with Mary.

Now Other Choices:
Many things....  I could have called and explained the situation from the very beginning, I could have explained the situation to Mary, I could have invited Sally to join us.  I could have invited both of them to my place.  Many, many options.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
not at all, Sally and I are great friends still

Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes.  I have known Sally since I was 12 years old.  She deserved better, and I should have been aware that she was going through a difficult time and needed me then.


Other Choices:
I think I did the only option available to me at the time.  I was in no mental condition to handle taking care of anyone but myself.

Now Other Choices:
I could have made an effort to keep in contact with my step-son.  I could have tried to explain the situation to him so that he would understand, if that was possible.  I could have waited till his father was sober and we could have talked to him togethe

Now Wish Done Differently:
I wish there was something I could have done different, but I still don't think there was, given my condition at the time.

Whose Opinions:
My family and friends.  His family and friends.

Ethical Definition:
To be ethical is to follow an accepted practice of what is morally right and wrong.


Other Choices:
I could have told her the truth, but it would have hurt her feelings, so I did not.

Now Other Choices:
I can't think of anything.... that is why I lied.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
only the few times mom has asked about her stuff or my stuff that she saved.


Now Other Choices:
Quit hanging out with my cousin!!  Walk out the door empty handed!

Now Wish Done Differently:
oh yes!!  I would never do it.  It wouldn't even cross my mind.  I marked that it would be an easy dicision to make today, because I would just not do it.

Whose Opinions:
I imagined what my parents would say if I got caught, but I did it anyway


Other Choices:
not gone out, not spent the night, not broken my fiancee's heart

Frequency of Recollection:
every moment until I told my fiancee I couldn't marry him

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Every now and again I wonder what it would have been like to marry my first love.  Maybe twice a year

Now Wish Done Differently:
not really, I wasn't ready to get married, obviously.

Whose Opinions:
nobodies, it was just a spur of the moment thing that led to the end of my engagement


Frequency of Recollection:
Not many, just relieved I didn't get caught

Wish Done Differently:
I don't think I ever really regretted it... I needed the grade

Now Other Choices:
studied for the test or taken the bad grade

Now Wish Done Differently:
In my heart I know I should not hve looked, but he was really cute and smart and I wanted him to think I appreciated it.


Other Choices:
It would have been very easy to blame someone else.  He never would have known the difference, but it would have been WRONG

Now Other Choices:
For me, it was the only thing I could do.  I had to admit to the mistake.

Now Wish Done Differently:
no, well, except not forgotten the order in the first place!!


Ethical Definition:
Person who does the right thing, obeys the law.


Ethical Definition:
Person who does the right thing, obeys the law


Ethical Definition:
moral strength & power to make the contructive decisions


Other Choices:
In thinking back to then, I had many options but at the time I wanted him to stay I was being a demanding ass.

Ethical Definition:
awareness of options for positive impact on others


Now Wish Done Differently:
yes. I wish I had taken her to get the cortisone shot earlier & PT


Ethical Definition:
everyone has there own set of ethics that works for them or makes a shambles for them.


Ethical Definition:
sticking to constructive actions & words.


Ethical Definition:
hitting the bullseye on the water mark of one's potential


Ethical Definition:
decsions that effect others constructively


Ethical Definition:
an ideal that you try to reach & the details of it reveal itself a little at a time.


Ethical Definition:
always doing the right thing in the deepest way


Other Choices:
I did the right thing for our financial goals.  We were renting and with all the children we had to have a bigger hoime and an investment.

Frequency of Recollection:
I really dont think about it that much anymore but I am proud for what I did at the time.

Wish Done Differently:
I wish I had never done one thing for that man all he dud was use and abuse me and then take my property and then he hired many men to kill me so he could have my property and he is still doing it I wish I never met him  or ever got involved with him he

Now Other Choices:
I would have not made the investment he wasnt worth it and I took a $156.000.00 loss over that idiot.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I think about what a wrong desision that was daily because it was taken away from me from bob scott

Now Wish Done Differently:
totally let him buy it and get it on his own when I met him he was living in a car with 2 kids.  I had 2 homes and cars and boats with out a man.

Whose Opinions:
Never will I let anyone ever take advantage of me like bob did whether it be man or woman it will never happen again.,


Other Choices:
I was happy someone was paying attention to me but little did I know that later on after trying to have a relationship with this man he ended up being a hit man hired to kill me.  This man severely beat me almost till death and then told me he was a hit

Now Other Choices:
really wish i never fell for the set up.


Other Choices:
I woulldnt have changed a thing we are still very close friends.  The only thing is this woman ended up taking advantage of me financially and also time wise and she kept expecting more and more out of me financially and time wise and this I really didn"

Frequency of Recollection:
I ended up helping this woman more and more but when she started to take advantage of me then I basically had to cut her off.  Due to financial issues and time issues.  You can only do so much for someone and if they do not appreciate it and it becomes a

Wish Done Differently:
Only when she didnt compensate me for my time,  travel time, and phone time and problem solving time did I feel she was totally using me to her advantage and friends dont do that to friends it should be a equal partnership.

Now Other Choices:
I am a very giving and loving person and I think everyone is like me.  What happens is they end up taking advantage of me and my abilitiys and using me and evan sometimes hurting me out of jeolousy about my life or my abilities.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I really feel I made the right decision but I also have to be careful about the fact people take advantage of my kindness and sometimes evan use me to the point of dealth do to the fact that I am much to giving as a person.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Not been such a easy target for people who use people and say its frienship.

Whose Opinions:
People told me didnt have to help her and not to waste my time on her but did not believe them.


Other Choices:
I could have not gotten so angry with him to do something so stupid.  You see I had known this man since I was 15 and he had always wanted to marry me so I moved in with him and we were cohabitating.  But he ended up totally taking advantage of me I had

Frequency of Recollection:
Not much I felt I deserved the stupid thing for all my hard work with no pay for a year.

Wish Done Differently:
Not at all I felt I did the right thing under my circumstances

Now Other Choices:
Not let him treat me that way, like a slave and also lowering myself to take something out of his dresser was really stupid.  But  I was really mad at hime for treating me that way and it was something really little  not evan worth $20.00,

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I really dont have the time to reflect on this that much because I really dont see him any more and he really isnt worth my time evan if he is a millionare.

Whose Opinions:
I feel it was totally wrong to take from another person but I also feel I deserved it do to the fact he never paid me for my work or suffering I really should have suied him to be totally honest with you but instead I just detached from the man and cried afterwords.


Whose Opinions:
Those of my friends in the theatre company. That of my boss's boss.


Whose Opinions:
Those of anyone else who might find out about our affair.


Whose Opinions:
No one's. That was largely what I was chagrined about.


Other Choices:
place her in a home other then ours,gave her to one other family member, (or)left her where she was at the hospital.

Now Other Choices:
I would have sold the business and kept the property and  hired others to run the business.(WE HAD A SENIOR GUEST HOME WHERE I TOOK CARE OF MY MOTHER.

Whose Opinions:
OUR FAMILY DOCTORS, ATTONEY'S,PERSONAL PROFFESSIONAL FRIENDS, PEOPLE CURRENTLY IN THE FIELD OF HEALTHCARE.

Ethical Definition:
LEARNING TO FOLLOW THE WISDOM,KNOWLEDGE,AND UNDERSTANDING OR THE BIBLE'S MEANING OF ETHICALS ACTIONS. THE WAY THAT WAS THE TEACHING OF MY CHILD HOOD.THE BIBLE SAYS TRAIN UP A CHILD IN THE WAY HE SHOULD GO AND WHEN HE IS OLD HE SHALL NOT DEPART FROM IT.


Other Choices:
I COULD NOT DO ANYTHING DIFFERENT AT ALL. IT WAS A UNCONIOUS ACTION SO IT CAME DIRECTLY FROM MY HEART.

Frequency of Recollection:
ONCE, THE DAY I DID IT. AND NEVER THROUGHT OF IT AGAIN,UNTIL NOW.

Now Other Choices:
NOTHING AT ALL, IT CAME DIRECTLY FROM MY HEART TO MY MOUTH AND BYPASSED MY MIND. WHILE MY MIND WAS IN PROCESS OF THINKING ABOUT SAYING IT MY HEART AND MOUTH CAME INTO AGREEMENT AND SAID IT.

Whose Opinions:
NO ONE'S AT ALL, I ONLY CONSIDERED WHAT WAS COMING OUR OF MY HEART.

Ethical Definition:
AS THE BIBLE SAY'S DO UNTO OTHER'S AS YOU WOULD HAVE THEM DO TO YOU. I WOULD WANT TO BE TOLD THE TRUTH WITHOUT FEAR OF IT.


Other Choices:
NOTHING BUT STAY AT HOME LIKE MY MOTHER TOLD US TO DO. BECAUSE MY DAUGHTER DID THE SAME TO ME BUT I CAUGHT HER AND HER FRIEND WHO STAYED THE NIGHT.

Frequency of Recollection:
ALOT BECAUSE WE DID NOT GET CAUGHT AND I KNEW THAT I WAS NOT GOING TO DISOBEY AGAIN BECAUSE I KNEW IT WAS GOD TELLING ME WHAT IF WE GOT CAUGHT? WE WOULD HAVE BEEN IN TROUBLE FOR THE WHOLE SENIOR YEAR OF SCHOOL.

Wish Done Differently:
MY GIRL FRIENDS AND I TALKED ABOUT IT AND HOW AFRAID WE WERE AND PROMISED EACH OTHER THAT WE WOULD NOT LET EACH OTHER DO, OR MAKE WRONG DESISONS AGAIN.

Now Other Choices:
NONE BUT DO WHAT MY MOTHER TOLD ME TO DO.

Ethical Definition:
CORRECT YOUR MISTAKES, REPENT TO WHOM YOU HAVE HARMED(OR) ASK FOR FORGIVENESS AND MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE.


Other Choices:
MAY BE NOT WAITED SO LONG BEFORE THE DEADLINE TO RUSH AND TRY TO COMPLETE THE PROJECT AND WRITE ALL OF THE INFORMATION TO THE DOCUMENTS MYSELF.

Wish Done Differently:
I WISH I COULD HAVE HAD MORE TIME TO WORK ON THE PROJECT.

Now Other Choices:
NONE BEING THE TIME ALOTMENT THAT WAS GIVEN TO GET THE PROJECT DONE.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
WHEN EVER SOMEONE ASK ME TO DO A PROJECT WITH A LIMITED AMOUNT OF TIME , I DONT TAKE UNLESS WE CAN GET AN EXTENTION TO GET IT DONE WITHOUT THE PRESSURE

Whose Opinions:
I ONLY CONSIDERED MY EXCEPTANCE OF THIS PROJECT.

Ethical Definition:
MAKING SURE THAT MY WORD IS KEPT WHEN IT IS GIVEN TO OTHERS, THATS IMPORTANT TO ME AND TELLING THE OTHER PERSON WHOM I ALLOWED TO PLACE ME IN A LIMITED TIME FRAME WOULD KNOW JUST WHAT I HAD TO DO TO GET THEIR JOB DONE FOR THEM, AND ALSO LETTING THEM KNOW


Other Choices:
THERE WAS NOTHING ELSE I COULD DO BUT NOT BE AROUND HIM BECAUSE HE WAS MARRIED. AND I KNOW THE SEEDS YOU SOW IN THE GROUNDS OF ACTIONS TODAY YOU WILL REAP IN YOUR HARVEST OF TOMORROW.

Frequency of Recollection:
NEVER. I PHYSCALLY MOVED. I TOOK MYSELF OUT OF HARMS WAY.

Ethical Definition:
THE SAME SEEDS OF HURT, AND PAIN THAT YOU SOW  INTO SOMEONE'S LIFE IT WILL COME BACK TO YOU BEFORE YOU LEAVE THIS EARTH I PROMISE YOU.


Other Choices:
PAID THE FUNDS OUR OF MY OWN ACCOUNT,PERIOD.

Now Other Choices:
PAID THE FUNDS OUT OF MY PERSONAL ACCOUNT.

Now Wish Done Differently:
PAID THE FUNDS OUT OF MY PERSONAL ACCOUNT.

Ethical Definition:
CARING ABOUT OTHER'S NEEDS AS CLOSELY AS YOU DO YOUR OWN.


Whose Opinions:
I ONLY CONSIDERED WHAT I HAD TO DO WHICH WAS TO COMPLETE MY PROJECT.


Other Choices:
I COULD HAVE NOT SLOWED AROUND AND PAIDED IT OUR OF MY PERSONAL FUNDS ACCOUNT AND THEN THEY COULD HAVE JUST PAID ME BACK AT ANOTHER TIME. ANYWAY THEY CAME AND PAID ME AND I GAVE IT DIRECTLY TO THE SCHOOL FUND.

Frequency of Recollection:
EVERY DAY UNTIL WE PAID THE SCHOOL FOR THEIR CLASSES.

Wish Done Differently:
ALL THE TIME, UNTIL THE FUNDS WERE PAID FOR THOSE STUDENTS.

Now Other Choices:
ONLY ONE PAID THE FUNDS FROM MY OWN ACCOUNT.

Ethical Definition:
I MUST REFER BACK TO ONE BASIC THING SO UNTO OTHER'S AS YOU WOULD WANT THEM TO DO TO YOU.


Other Choices:
STOP DOING WHAT I WAS DOING AT THE TIME. BUT EVERY TIME I WANTED TO BREAK UP WITH THEM BOTH THEY WOULD CRY ABOUT AND THAT WOULD PLAY ON MY EMOTIONS SO I FOUND MYSELF LOCKED INTO A PLACE THAT I DID NOT WANT TO BE IN AT A YOUNG AGE.

Ethical Definition:
GETTING THE KNOWLEDGE THAT'S NEEDED FOR OUR YOUTH TO EMPOWER THEM.


Frequency of Recollection:
ALL THE TIME BECAUSE MY MOTHER WOULD NOT LET ME FORGET IT.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
OFTEN WHEN I AM TELLING MY STUDENTS ABOUT SOME CLOSE CALLS YOU HAVE TO MAKE TO SAVE OTHERS AND YOUR FAMILY


Ethical Definition:
an honest and open person, which in this situation I was not


Now Wish Done Differently:
Never, I know I did the right thing no matter how hard it was,because my daughter is now 8 months clean and sober.

Ethical Definition:
a person who is honest and does the right thing.


Other Choices:
several, the number one thing I could have done is tell my friend "no" I would not do it.

Whose Opinions:
at the time I didn't think about anyone's opinion, but if I had it would have been my parents.


Ethical Definition:
being a honest person who does not hurt other people by my actions, words or deeds.


Other Choices:
The only other thing that I could have done was to just let the chips fall where they may and lost my job.

Frequency of Recollection:
I thought about this situation on a regular bases simply because the job had a regular  work cycle so the same situation came up monthly.

Wish Done Differently:
Never.  Unfortunately the management was quite poor and simply did not care as long as they got the end result.  I did not like taking the work home without permission but I got it done and returned it completed to keep the job another day.

Now Other Choices:
Only one.  Not taken the work home to complete, fallen behind and lost my job.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I don't think about it.  As I said this companies management staff did not care about what was right or wrong as long as they got what they wanted.

Now Wish Done Differently:
I simply don't care in this situation.  Had I say taken the work home and never completed and returned it that would be different, but I gave myself a personal goal and met it and was honorable over-all.  That is more than I can say for the management staff.  They were not good people and they were happy being that way.

Whose Opinions:
I would be the only person effected by the situation so I did what I had to do the get the situation workable.


Other Choices:
The only other thing that I could have done, would have been to leave the man there and just wonder whether he was alright.  But because I had the time to spare it did not enter my mind to just leave him there.

Frequency of Recollection:
I don't recall thinking about the decision I made the help the elderly man; but I did say to hime that I would come back that evening ans check on him.  I was not able to return for some time.  I thought about how he was doing a lot.  When I got back to

Wish Done Differently:
I don't recall that.  But after I returned to the house not to fing the man.  I did regret not having stopped back by sooner, several times and even today.

Now Other Choices:
Nothing different today.  If you can help someone and you feel that it is the right thing to do you just do it.  If there were other variables that may have changed the circonstances, such as being late to a scheduled appointment maybe that would make a

Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes.  I wish I had followed through by stopping back by the man's house to check on him sooner than I did.

Whose Opinions:
I did not consider an opinion.  There was a person having a medical situation and I was available to help; that's it.

Ethical Definition:
I thnik that being ethical is a balance of what is right to do and doing that.  It is not always comfortable but it allows one to the at peace in conclusion of the situation.


Frequency of Recollection:
many times in the first month after, then occasionally, possibly 40 times throughout the year

Now Wish Done Differently:
definitely.....I could have kept my mouth shut and not offered any information

Whose Opinions:
my interviewer, person who would train me and my immediate supervisor had I been hired

Ethical Definition:
being upfront about a situation and not disillusioning others who are helping me out


Other Choices:
By the point atwhich this was happening ,other options has been exhausted, already attempted such as securing the TP through some other means

Frequency of Recollection:
Everythime we entered the bathroom during the life of that TP roll, it was a reminder.

Wish Done Differently:
Until the severity of extreme poverty is understood and until the immorality of denying people work and the means to be self sufficient, the matter is so difficult to evaluate in the narrow conventional "morality" parameters.

Now Other Choices:
By that point, there was no other.  Instead, it was almost a "blessing" to be tempted with the opportunity.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Not thought about it this year due only as raised by the study parameters that permit us a rare opportunity for 'private" "self-analysis" and the holdign up of a mirror--So. rare.

Ethical Definition:
In this memory, what occurred differs from the first 3 memories because it more has to do with severe practical needs of daily life yet NOT addressed at all by any "socially acceptable" or Moral program.


Other Choices:
Limited by fact that a patient was depending on my professional courage to save his

Now Other Choices:
That particular situation is ultimately very clear cut. The ER doc if one has integrity, chooses the patient's life over any job security.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Not until it was actually relived by the study.  Have not relived it except if this type of dilemnas are being discussed.  Rare.

Whose Opinions:
The hospital administrator, the Radiology Chief (an MD as like me), the ER Chief ( an MD like me)

Ethical Definition:
Try one's best to act fairly, to do one profession to the best of one capabilties; to choose "right" over convenience, or other considerations.


Frequency of Recollection:
None, as I had no idea how these exams were done and it was a great surprise to learn the score was perfect.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Had not thought about it until there was an article shortly before this study about how others felt about Native speakers ogf any langauage taking the langauge achievement tests.  I wondered if Chinese was available, and there were Native speakers, would

Ethical Definition:
Being satisfied at any point in your life with what one has done to live their life without having deprived anyone else of their equal opportunity to also pursue life, happines, joy, opportunity to the fullest.  To have been a just, fair careful about mi


Other Choices:
Not easy to do other as the professor's schedule limited access to him; same for other faculty; not much time to act.

Now Other Choices:
Because it was a student having to make a decision, other options were limited.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Most of these memories have been deep in "storage" of my life as lived. So had not thought about it for almost 34+ yrs until this study.

Whose Opinions:
My fellow sophomore classmates, especially my best friends; the rival student body candidates; the teacher at risk.

Ethical Definition:
Trying to live without causing anyone else's life to be ruined such that our own economic or other goals come to pass.


Other Choices:
The conditions for marriage were quite clear cut and completely unacceptable to me. Somewhat disappointing from a person whom I loved and had discused marriage and futures together.  The conditions changed everything!

Now Other Choices:
The person was going to be my life partner.  The parameters for future actions could not be dictated by only one side, his ideas on what we should care about or dedicate ourselves to.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
once the decision was made, it was critical to allow the other person and myself the freedom to begin the charting of "new directions" as shocking as that was.

Whose Opinions:
The partner, my boyfriend, his parents, my parents, those who knew us.

Ethical Definition:
Living life so that we can face ourselves in the mirror the next day; the next minute really and years later.


Other Choices:
The educational system lacks much emotional or other support for parents.  So it fails to consider that illerate parents cannot "READ" their notices; and their kindergartener or 1 st grader may NOT yet eb able to "read it" for them ,etc.

Now Other Choices:
Not many other ways then except that in June of the school year I did meet and informed the School Parent Group President about ideas to better include all parents and perhaps how the children did very much need the parents involvement regardless of the

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Since decision was made, especially as the years went on, then other decisions took primary focus in myh memory or mind.

Whose Opinions:
The principal; perhaps the substitute teacher; the children; the parents of the children.

Ethical Definition:
Living one's life so that if it ended in the next second, there has been minimal damage to others, hopefully inadvertant if there was any negative actions.


Now Wish Done Differently:
I absolutely sometimes wish I'd have just taken the van and driven back to California

Whose Opinions:
Family and friends - although THEY were the ones urging me to just take the van and leave


Now Wish Done Differently:
I wish I hadn't decided I'd give her a hard time about the money to begin with.  THAT would have saved me some embarrassment.

Ethical Definition:
It's as simple, and as hard, as doing the right thing, taking the high road, etc.


Ethical Definition:
Giving the money back when it's not yours


Now Wish Done Differently:
Not really, although she doesn't know to this day!

Ethical Definition:
Someone who makes the right decision at the time


Frequency of Recollection:
I'm sure I did think about it, but I can't remember - I think I've blocked it out

Now Wish Done Differently:
That's a hard one.  Standing on the outside of it, I suppose.  But I remember just not feeling anything for her - not even hatred - Just nothing.  Obviously, I'm aware it's an awful thing to do to someone, and yet my guilt is minimal.

Whose Opinions:
I can honestly say, only my own.  I was very numb.

Ethical Definition:
Taking the high road whenever possible.  I can't always say I've succeeded.


Now Wish Done Differently:
I just wish I'd have had more money to send them.


Ethical Definition:
Recognizing when you've done something out of rage and at least realizing it was wrong


Other Choices:
1) I could have seen my ex-boyfriend and risk incurring the wrath of the current one or; 2) I could have seen the ex-boyfriend and stopped seeing the current boyfriend since he was being so controllin

Now Other Choices:
1) I could have seen the ex-boyfriend and potentially incurred the jealous wrath of the current one or; 2) I could have seen the ex-boyfriend and dumped the current one because he was too controlling or; 3) I could have called the ex-boyfriend, explained

Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes.  I wish I had called the ex-boyfriend to explain what was going on. And perhaps, dumped the new one if he did not understand.

Whose Opinions:
The opinion  of the past boyfriend and current boyfriend

Ethical Definition:
Choosing to do the right thing without regard to personal sacrifice or cost.


Other Choices:
Invite her and let the evening take its course.

Now Other Choices:
Invite her and let the evening take its course

Now Frequency of Recollection:
None. It was a social situation that is awkward and difficult but not a large enough dilemna to warrant stressing over.

Whose Opinions:
That of the friend who was not invited and the mutual friend.

Ethical Definition:
Willing to do what is right without regard to personal sacrifice or cost. Disregarding the opinions of others in favor of following your own moral code.


Ethical Definition:
Choosing to do what is right regardless of personal cost and sacrifice. Iignoring the opinions of others to instead follow your personal ethical code.


Other Choices:
Could have rushed home immediately to let him in. Could have told him where the hidden keys were. He could have met me in the neighborhood to pick up my keys (which I offered and he declined)

Wish Done Differently:
Never, It was over only to be rethought if the situation arose again. This person was moving out imminently and another roommate would possibly change the decision.

Ethical Definition:
Choosing to do the right thing without regard to personal cost, sacrifice.


Other Choices:
I could have gone far out of my way to hand-deliver the paperwork to the office or I could have travelled to deliver it to my boss.

Wish Done Differently:
Right afterwards and a few times again. But, not that often since it was situational and did not come up again.

Now Other Choices:
1) Delivered the paperwork to the office. That would have been a hardship since it is very far away. 2) Met my boss somewhere and delivered the paperwork to him (that would have been far away too but not as far as the office.)

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Only a few times since it was situational, fleeting and never repeated.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes. I wish I had told him the paperwork had not been mailed and told him tht his instructions were confusing and that caused the mess. He was unclear on what he wanted the paperwork mailed, so I did not do it. And then he wanted me to go out of my way to resolve it. Instead of confronting this head-on,  I choose to take the easy route and say the paperwork had been mailed.

Ethical Definition:
Choosing to do what is right without regard to personal cost or sacrifice.


Wish Done Differently:
Yes. Of course, I wish I had never done it.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
None. It was a small incident and too long ago. I've never repeated it and understand why I did it at the time.

Ethical Definition:
Choosing to do what is right without regard to personal cost, consequences, or sacrifice.


Now Other Choices:
Could have phrased the compliment differently so that the topic of his being previously cheap is omitted.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Never. Too small an inicdent in the scheme of things.

Ethical Definition:
Choosing to do the right thing without regard to personal cost or sacrifice.


Other Choices:
insist that someone else in the family take over because I could not handle the stress but, in reality, I knew that the liklihood of that happening was extremely slim so I felt I had no options really.

Frequency of Recollection:
Several times but only because of the burden it put on my life not because I regretted it.

Now Other Choices:
Insisted that someone else take over the burden

Ethical Definition:
Choosing to do the right thing regardless of personal sacrifice, cost, tribulation or any other person's opinion. Being ethical is of paramount important in life.


Other Choices:
1) Invited my sister to the funeral and have her children there as well. 2) Invited my sister to the funeral and not have her children there.

Now Other Choices:
1) Invited my sister and her children to the funeral. 2) Invited my sister to the funeral but not her children

Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes. I wish I had invited my sister to the funeral.

Whose Opinions:
The opinions of my mother's friends and all others invited to the funeral.  I did not care what they thought.


Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes. I wish I had joined her and her friens for lunch.

Ethical Definition:
Choosing to do the right thing without regard to personal sacrifice, cost or pain.


Ethical Definition:
Choosing to to do the right thing without regard to personal sacrifice, cost.


Other Choices:
None. I had already tried every other option which was to take my nephew into my home as much as possible and to intervene and try to help his mother

Wish Done Differently:
Once the legal papers were served, my sister cut off all contact between my nephew and I. Knowing that he would now be even more emotionally tortured but without me to turn to, I wondered if it would have been best not to take action and stay in his life

Whose Opinions:
No one's. Child abuse is pretty straigh forward and I was very clear morally on what I was dealing with.

Ethical Definition:
Choosing to do the right thing without regard to personal cost or sacrifice. Following your personal code and impervious to other people's judgements


Ethical Definition:
Not doing anything that would hurt someone else.


Now Frequency of Recollection:
about 100 because she has since writtren a letter to me

Ethical Definition:
not doing anything that would hurt anyone


Ethical Definition:
Not doing anything that would hurt anyone else.


Other Choices:
5= not do it at all;  waited for a better time; written to her; have someone else bring it up; talked to someone first to find out if they feel it's a good idea to confront her with it;  had someone else there in addition to the 2 of us, someone who can

Ethical Definition:
the thoughts and deeds reflecting righteousness


Ethical Definition:
listening to one's inner conscience and acting accordingly


Whose Opinions:
only my friends who i felt would respond positively

Ethical Definition:
describes an action depicting the right decision in terms of morality


Whose Opinions:
my own; the "coolest guy;" and all my peers at the schoo.

Ethical Definition:
knowingly behaving and thinking in an acceptable and appropriate manner as defined by the larger society


Ethical Definition:
to me, ethical means adhering to a set of moral values...putting effort in doing the right thing.


Ethical Definition:
ethical means that it is being righteous.


Ethical Definition:
a behavior that can be considered good in value by societal reasoning


Whose Opinions:
the people who received the extra tickets


Whose Opinions:
my supervisor, the owner of the company as well

Ethical Definition:
a standard by which one chooses their decisions, actions, opinions, and courses of action  for a given situation


Ethical Definition:
having a standard of  or philosophy upon which to draw regarding  choices of behavior or intention


Whose Opinions:
police, CHP, IRS, FTB, District Attoueney, Cell Mates in prison...hahaha

Ethical Definition:
a crtteria for choosing an action or opinion on a given issue or for a general overview for behavior


Ethical Definition:
a standard or basis for choosing or deciding which thought or behavior to take on an issue or matter


Whose Opinions:
of course i didn't have to think much about what my wifes opinion would be.yes i THOUGHT about it...but did I have a high regard for it at that point? Obviously not. My activity was covert so I worried about what my parents, children, or friends would think IF I were to tell them.

Ethical Definition:
a standard  or model to reference, and aspire to uphold in terms of making choices, opinions, and behaviors to take.


Other Choices:
I could have just said no. I also could have said no, but made an excuse for my answer. I could have stayed at the doctor's office and waited for them instead of having them call me.

Now Other Choices:
I could have said no. I could have said no and used an excuse. I could have taken them and waited until the doctor's appointment was over. I could have called them a taxi.

Ethical Definition:
A person who follows a standard of morals and values, and acts his conscience in doing the right thing.


Other Choices:
Besides turning the woman down, I could have accepted her offer.

Now Other Choices:
Besides accepting the woman's offer, I could have said no. I also could have lectured her about her intent.

Ethical Definition:
Living by certain values and moral standards


Other Choices:
Besides picking up the three dollars and keeping them, I could have picked them up and took them to the lost and found,  or I could have just walked by and not picked them up.

Now Other Choices:
Besides keeping the three dollars, I could have turned them in to lost and found, or not picked them up, or pointed them out to other passersby.

Ethical Definition:
Living by a certain standard of values and morals.


Other Choices:
Besides giving to the Charity, I could have decided not to. I also could have sent a note back to the charity telling them to stop sending  me letters asking for money.

Now Other Choices:
Besides giving to the charity, I could have decided not to donate. I also could have written them back asking them to stop asking me for money. I also could have phoned them and asked them to stop sending me literature.

Ethical Definition:
A person who follows values and morals he or she believes in. One who has a sense or right and wrong, and acts according to conscience.


Ethical Definition:
ethical means following certain values and moral standards that are believed to be right


Other Choices:
Besides looking at the records, I could have not opened up the accountant's program and looked at them.

Now Other Choices:
Besides looking at the records, I could have not opened the program to look for them, or I could have opened the program and then decide not to look for them.


Other Choices:
Besides lying about where I was, I could have told him the truth.

Now Other Choices:
Besides lying, I could have told the truth. I also could have made up an excuse for being where I said I wasn't.

Ethical Definition:
Living by certain value and moral standards.


Other Choices:
Besides erasing the answers and not cheating, I could have cheated by not erasing the answers. I could have not erased the answers and not cheated by not referring to them.

Now Other Choices:
Besides erasing the answers, I could have used them to cheat. I also could have ignored them and not cheated. I also could have never written them on my hand in the first place.

Ethical Definition:
Ethical is following certain values and morals and acting on them.


Other Choices:
1. I could have kept the incorrect change.  2. I could have kept it, felt guilty, and returned it to the store later. 3. I could have told my parents about it and asked  them what to do.

Now Other Choices:
1. Kept the incorrect change. 2. Kept the incorrect change and asked my parents what to do. 3. Kept the channge, but returned it to the store later.

Ethical Definition:
an ethical person is one who lives by and acts by certain values and morals. He or she also has a conscience.


Ethical Definition:
a person who considers the well being of other living creatures, as well as, the environment.


Ethical Definition:
a person who has moral judgements and considers other living things


Ethical Definition:
a person who considers the well being of other living creatures, as well as, his environment


Whose Opinions:
My employer whom I was picking up my paycheck from.


Other Choices:
There's only one other option I could have done and that would have been to shell out the money for airfare and actually gone up to Sacramnento and spent time with my famiily up there for the holiday and bit the bullet.

Frequency of Recollection:
I probably only thought about this incident again possibly once or twice.

Wish Done Differently:
I never wished I'd done something different.

Now Other Choices:
I could have still only done one other thing and that would have been to pay for the plane ticket and gone.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I've thought about it possibly once or twice.

Whose Opinions:
What they might say about what they felt might be the real reason I was not coming for the holidays. As well as OTHER members of my family not in that area. That does matter to me.

Ethical Definition:
Ethical means making sound behavioral decisions that do not harm other people or are morally reprehensible. My decision is this case was neither of those.


Now Wish Done Differently:
Not really. It was fun and I  don't really regret it that much. I wouldn't do it again or want alot of people to know about it, but it was fun once.

Ethical Definition:
Making decisions that don't harm others and don't reflect poorly on your character.


Other Choices:
I could have done approximately three things. I could have threatened him back and told him he had one more chance, walked away, or did what I did.

Now Other Choices:
I could have done approximately three different things.

Whose Opinions:
I probably considered the opinions of my fellow classmates, my teacher (who was very intimidating!), the Principal of the school and my mother and father.

Ethical Definition:
Ethical is making decisions in life that do not harm others.


Ethical Definition:
Making decisions that do not harm others or reflect poorly upon your character.


Other Choices:
I had two options. To not take the girls back to my place, or to do it.

Wish Done Differently:
Never because she never found out and we had not been going out that long.

Whose Opinions:
The only other person whose opinon I considered, was the girl I was seeing at the time.


Other Choices:
I could have two different things. I could have studied for the tests at not had to rely on cheating or did what I did.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Only when I related the memory in the first part of this study.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes of course. I wish I had not done it.

Whose Opinions:
Only my own, the person next to me and my teacher's.

Ethical Definition:
Making decisions in life that do not harm others.


Other Choices:
We could have done two different things. Not shoplifted, or shoplifted.

Now Other Choices:
Two things. Shoplifted or not shoplifted.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Only when I related the memory in part one of this study.

Whose Opinions:
I considered my childhood friend's opinion who I was with, my brother's, the store clerks, and the police.

Ethical Definition:
Making decisions in life that do not harm others in any way and reflect positively upon your character..


Other Choices:
I could have pursued her and allowed the relationship to develop, or end it before it did, which is what I did.

Whose Opinions:
The authorities, her family, my family, my friends, basically everyone I know.

Ethical Definition:
Making decisions in life that do not harm others or reflect poorly upon your character.


Other Choices:
The only other option to helping is not to help.  I did not have to buy food and cook let alone go and visit.  I could have said I cared but did not act on it.

Now Other Choices:
Only one different thing could have happened.  I could have nothing.  That would have been the easiest thing to do, but that is not what I wanted at all.

Whose Opinions:
I did not consider other's opions in deciding to help.  I had a relative to ask me why did I cook for the family in the same way.  Had I considered that person's opinion it may not have gotten done or I wouyld have over extended myself to include the family that was more than able to cook their own holiday dinner.

Ethical Definition:
In this situation I don't believe that ethics really paly a role.  This was more a situation of wanting to help others and finding a way.


Other Choices:
I think there are two distinctly different things I could have done.  One

Frequency of Recollection:
I can't give a true number count but I thought about it  over and over and over again.

Wish Done Differently:
Over and over and over again, and then again and again

Now Other Choices:
I feel the same today as I did that day. One.   If I had nothing good to say, don't say anything at all.  Two   Don't kick a person when they are down.  I find that with human nature it is so easy to kick a person already down.  When you are emotionally

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I don't think about the decision anymore in terms of what I should have done.  What I did was not nice and I do wish I could have taken it back at the time.  But I know a bettere way to handle a situation like that.

Whose Opinions:
I did not consider anyone else's opinion.  That is what was wrong with saying what I said.  Had I considered anyone else's opinion including my own I would nver have brought the subject up.

Ethical Definition:
Be ethical is a balance in what one sees a morally right and actually doing it as well.


Other Choices:
At that time as a littlegirl all I knew was it was so much fun to play in mom's jewelry.

Frequency of Recollection:
Never had a second thought other than when I actually broke one of the necklaces.

Wish Done Differently:
As I said before I did not giver it a seconf thought other than the broken one.  I was having too much fun and mom knew that which is pobably why I did not get in trouble that I remembered.

Now Other Choices:
Honored my mom's wishes and stayed out of her jewelry box.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I don't think about it.  I was a kid having fun and my mom knew that.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Not really.  It was a fun thing in my life and my mom understood that.

Whose Opinions:
M mom's opinion.  She would say stay out of my jewelry but she did not seem to mean it.

Ethical Definition:
In this situation I am a child so in my opinion in a situation of palying with mom's jewelry is not an ethical situation.  Had the subject been don't play with the gun then The question would be appropriate.


Other Choices:
Just one.  I could have given her the hats back when I founfd them in storage several months later.  I had no idea that I has them initally.

Wish Done Differently:
Don't recall, as I said when it rained and I pulled out the hat I thopught about it.

Now Other Choices:
One thing just returned the hats when I came across them in storage regardless og getting my albums back or not.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I don't think so becausee they were her hats, whether she returned my belongings to me or not.  I had a recent situation were she invited me over the paly some music and it was all mt music with my name on the covers.  Her family member even questioned h

Now Wish Done Differently:
I don't know because when it was al said and done and she had me sitting in her home and my albums spread out right in front of me with my name on them and got questioned by her family she still work nor give mt belongs back.

Ethical Definition:
Knowing the right thing to do and doing it.  In this case where do you draw the line?


Ethical Definition:
consideration for the health and well being oif others as well as oneself. Doing what is morally just and appropriate and being conscious of the ramifications of ones actions.


Ethical Definition:
walking the path of the straght and righteous


Ethical Definition:
being accountable for owns own actions and excersizing good judjement


Other Choices:
Not given medicine, insisted more verbally at arraignment that I had given the medicine, maybe thar would have helped but the system simply seemed to not want to hear me.

Frequency of Recollection:
Everyday, every waking minute it was always on my mind

Wish Done Differently:
Everyday, it was always on my mind wondering what I could have said to change everything

Now Other Choices:
Maybe I could have been more verbal but there is only so far I could go but maybe if I had gone higher up the chain of command I could have prevented the jail sentence for him but I had never been involved with the criminal or judicial system before and

Now Frequency of Recollection:
It will find its way into my thoughts 4 to 6 times in the year but I try to remove it because I can't change what happened

Now Wish Done Differently:
Tried harder to get the proper people to listen when I explained the situation

Whose Opinions:
I didn't consider anyone's opinion as I didn't realize I was doing anything wrong when I gave him the medicine and when I dealt with the court system all I considered was getting my husband's freedom

Ethical Definition:
A person with high morals that attempts to treat other people with respect


Other Choices:
Not told the client and closed the transaction with the prospect of receiving $250 Million USD however, if these people will willing to cheat the client what would keep them from cheating me

Wish Done Differently:
Everyday, I wish I had gone to Interpolr

Now Other Choices:
Gone to Interpole and reported the situation

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Once or twice a year I allow this event in my life to creep into my thoughts

Now Wish Done Differently:
Either gone to Interpole or closed the transaction and split my prodeeds with the client

Whose Opinions:
I considered only what felt right for me

Ethical Definition:
A person with high moral, respects other people


Other Choices:
Never started the relationship, kept it strictly business; been stronger in fighting my own desires

Frequency of Recollection:
Everyday I felt the pain of ending the relationship and the loss but I also felt the pain of the guilt I had to carry with me knowing I had been a party to hurting an innocent person

Wish Done Differently:
Everyday, it took me over ten years to get over this relationship and I still sometimes when I'm alone drift back in time but this man did some terrible things to me financially later when he stole my commission check for $25,000.00 and he and his wife f

Now Other Choices:
Never gotten into a relationship with a married man

Now Frequency of Recollection:
2-3 times a year when I see someting or hear a song that brings back memories

Now Wish Done Differently:
I loved this man so much but I wish I had never allowed myself to fall in love with him

Whose Opinions:
No one's I was very selfish and self centered in this decision

Ethical Definition:
A person with high morals who repects other people's feeling.  I learned alot from this experience and suffered tremendously as a result of my stupidity and selfishness


Other Choices:
Asked the cashier to confirm the correct price

Frequency of Recollection:
Only for a few days as I made a pledge to never make that mistake again, even though the meat was priced and I paid that amount I feel that it was priced incorrectly and I know many people would say "its just the stores loss" but I have been a business p

Ethical Definition:
A person with high morals trying to treat others with respect


Frequency of Recollection:
Everyday because I found out my husband was going to group sex session clubs

Wish Done Differently:
Many times I wished I simply hadn't found out the truth because it ended in divorce

Now Other Choices:
Simply not looked in his billfold however, what I had suspected was confirmed and brought to the surface to be dealt with

Now Wish Done Differently:
I wish I hadn't been placed in a position to have to sneak and look in his billfold but the end results would have surfaced eventually

Whose Opinions:
No ones because my husband was the only person this affected

Ethical Definition:
A person with high morals who considers other people


Other Choices:
I could have been honest with the gas station employee and told him I do not get change

Now Other Choices:
I could have just given the money back, or I could have just been honest to begin with and told the gas attendant I only paid $20

Ethical Definition:
Ethical = Things that we do in our everyday life that are politically correct in society's eyes  example


Other Choices:
Different things I could have done at the time is, I could have stayed married to my ex-husband I could have gotten beat up everyday and I could have raised my kids in an abusive relationship I could have just basically stayed in a bad marriage too me, b

Frequency of Recollection:
OFTEN, probably every hour of the day that I was awake.

Wish Done Differently:
Probably everyday for the next 6 months following I wish I had done something different

Now Other Choices:
I could have came to him with an agreement of divorce and an agreement to child support and child custody and come to a mutual agreement on child visitation

Whose Opinions:
I considered to "STOP" the divorce and stay with my ex-husband

Ethical Definition:
Ethical = Are things that you do in everyday life that are politically correct in society's eye's


Other Choices:
I could have really stayed home and have my friend spend the night then we would be stuck in the house we could have watched T.V. back then we didn't even have movies I do not think the Beta-Max was out yet to watch movies. Yes, I could have just stayed

Frequency of Recollection:
All year long throughout our next school year I thought about it only because I knew summer was coming around again and I could not wait to do it again hang out with my friends that is and lie about it to get out of my house to party with my friends even

Wish Done Differently:
Never, I never wished that I had done something different I was Happy with my high school memories of hanging out with friends.

Now Other Choices:
I could have just stayed home and played board games with my friends they could have came over and hung out in my room and listen to records and put  our hair in different stlyes or we could have just watched T.V. or talked  about school, boys, summer, o

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I have thought about it probably twice this past year.

Now Wish Done Differently:
No, I do not regret it beacause I had FUN and these memories are the best and now I look back and smile I was just being a teen.

Whose Opinions:
I considered my opinions and my bestfriend's opinion we were the only two that really counted in this matter because we were the ones doing this we were in it like a team (THE TEAM FOR FUN)

Ethical Definition:
Ethical = Morally right, doing things in life that are morally right just by nature opposite of unethical.


Other Choices:
I could have just done nothing which to me would have been just morally wrong this is a close friend of mine and I wanted to help her out with groceries, but I could have just sat back and knowing she had nothing meaning no food and I could have been lik

Frequency of Recollection:
Never , not once (Not that I can remember anyway)

Wish Done Differently:
Never, I was always content with the decision I had made that day.

Now Other Choices:
I could have ignored the fact that she was in need of food and  I could have done nothing meaning I could have not bought food for her and her kids and I did not have to bake a cake and take it to her daughter for her birthday I could have just ignored t

Now Wish Done Differently:
No, I am completely satisfied with my decision that I made that day.

Whose Opinions:
I only considered my opinion at this thime

Ethical Definition:
Ethical = Are things we do as being morally right, generally speaking.


Other Choices:
I could have waited two weeks  after serving my boss a written memorandum and I could have stuck around for my 2 weeks  prior notice but I chose NOT TO!!

Now Other Choices:
I could have just stayed at this job at least for a year then quit but I could have left the company in good standing with a great letter of recommendation and current employr like to see at least 2 years at the past job but I could NOT stick around for

Whose Opinions:
I considered the opinion of my family, I thought of my parents and kids and a few friends just to get in-put from them

Ethical Definition:
Ethical = Is a the way we are told to act by society in what's correct and appropriate behavior


Other Choices:
I could have just been nice to her and been her friend since most of the kids I picked on were loners meaning they had no friends so I really was not worried about how they felt I was happy to put them down, now I realize I should have extended my friend

Now Other Choices:
I could have extended my friendship out to them and been there friend or I could have talked to family member and explained to them there are a few kids in my school with no friends and maybe they would have guided me in the directon as to being nice to

Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes, I wish I had done something different

Ethical Definition:
Ethical = Are things we say and do on a daliy basis that are morally correct in today's society and  our own personal beliefs


Other Choices:
I could tell my daughters the truth, they are grown women.  I know I will tell them soon, and I know in my heart they will not react in a positive manner.  I'm more afraid of how they will treat my new man, it's not their Dad and the whole divorce thing

Frequency of Recollection:
Everytime I talk to my daughters on the phone, Art has to be quiet so they don't hear him in the background.  I know he hates being my "secret" for now and I hate lying to my daughters.  I am waiting for a good time to tell them that I have someone in my

Now Frequency of Recollection:
everytime I talk to my daughters, I wish I could tell them the truth

Ethical Definition:
as previously described.  I do not consider lying to my daughters about my current relationship and living arrangements as unethical.  Crazy perhpas, I should just tell them as soon as possible.


Frequency of Recollection:
I don't remember, I was only nine.  I can say I never stole anything after that, ever.

Wish Done Differently:
Who knows, I remember I told the preist during confession, said my pentence and prayed that my parents never found out.

Whose Opinions:
I could just think about my parents and what they would do to me if they ever found out.  They probably would have taken the "belt" to me


Other Choices:
The only differnt thing I could have done in regards to my father was to call him.  He was living in Mexico at the time.  I was very hurt with my father and did not want to speack to him.  I did not know how ill he was or I would have called.  I never wa

Frequency of Recollection:
I could not begin to figure out how many times,  I think of my father often, if I had to guess I would say at least ten times.

Wish Done Differently:
As many times that I have thought about it... at least 10

Now Other Choices:
One.  I should have called him in Mexico before my father died.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
As many times as I think about the whole situation, at least ten.  I think about my Dad several times a week, I may see or hear something that reminds me of my father and hold those good thoughts close to my heart.  I don't really like thinking about the

Whose Opinions:
No ones.  I don't judge other people and their decisions and really don't care what others may think about mine until they have walked in my shoes.  No one, unless they expierence the same thing should be able to pass judgement on others so quickly.

Ethical Definition:
Well, I think ethical means different things to differnet people.  Doing the right thing, or what seems to be right thing is ethical.  Ethical actions usually do not hurt others emotionally, physically, finanacially.


Other Choices:
At the time, I did not feel I had any other choices.  I really don't know this friend of his and don't particulary like or trust him.  When my boyfriend told me what the plans for the night were, I didn't believe him.

Frequency of Recollection:
Once or twice while telling my youngest sister and my girlfriend.

Wish Done Differently:
Once.  That same night.  I felt like an idiot sitting in the parking lot as they all came out and got into their cars and drove to the friends house..... all guys, just like they said.  I felt stupid for not trusting, but I had to know.


Other Choices:
One.  I could have chosen not to have the affair.  I could have waited until my husband and I separated and gone our own ways.  That would have been the morally right thing to do I guess, but I chose to have the affair and dealt with the guilt part my ow

Frequency of Recollection:
I've thought about the cheating part maybe a few times, but I don't regret having the affair.  I have in the past regreted doing it while we were still under the same roof.

Wish Done Differently:
I don't.  What I did was not morally right but I needed the companionship and compassion and caring from someone, and those things my husband could not give.  He hadn't given me those things in years.  I am not using his lack of attention, especially the

Now Frequency of Recollection:
Every now and then, it's not something I dwell on as a "bad thing"  .  It was good for me and I needed it at the time.  Having an affair is not something I took lightly.  It was not a one time thing.  I fell in love with the man and still involved in the

Now Wish Done Differently:
I guess I should have waited until we had separated, but in the same token, I'm glad I didn't.  I needed to feel happy, and this man was able to do that for me and make me laugh.  Laughter is what I really missed.  Someone to share things with, no just sex.

Whose Opinions:
No ones.  The decision to have the affair was mine and mine alone.  I wasn't blatant about it, I was discreet.  I was at a point in my marraige that I didn't care anymore, it was not something that could be fixed and my husband told me straight out, he could not change.  What other choice did I have?  Stay and be miserable for the rest of my life or split up and find happiness for myself.  I wanted to be happy , needed to be happy.  I live with my decisions, good, bad or indifferent.  I feel I did the right thing in leaving my husband even after all those years of being married.  I know he wasn't happy the way we were living so why delay the inevitable?

Ethical Definition:
I know this is weird.  I consider myself an ethical person.  I do not do things to hurt people, I do not take advantage for personal gain of any kind.  I know that if my husband had found out about the affair he probably would have been hurt, but honestl


Other Choices:
In my opinion, none.  He was trying to buy me back, it was too late.  I didn't want him or his diamond earings.

Frequency of Recollection:
Probably 3 or 4 times.  It would have been when I told my sisters and friends about the incident.


Whose Opinions:
only the owner of the wallet.  The prime directive was to get the wallet back to its' rightfyll owner.

Ethical Definition:
ethical-----honorable, responsible, caring , respectfull, concern


Ethical Definition:
Ethical to me is value, responsibility, believe, to be honorable, to accept one selfs' wise decisions and to represent my self.


Other Choices:
At the time there were no different ways to uncover what I did .  Getting acrossed such information made me learn more about  who my husband is and how he is pertaining to other ways of thinking.

Frequency of Recollection:
because ot the nature of the content, I think of it all the time.

Now Other Choices:
Many times it is best not to know of bad things,   when you know that one cannot change the past.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
This episode took place this year, and trying to understand and cope with it is not very easy.  My decision was correct.

Whose Opinions:
mine----because it was a shock at the time and I did not know how to deal with the information that I got acrossed.

Ethical Definition:
ethical---based on this memory-------analitical, understanding , inquiring.


Other Choices:
There were approximately two different things I could have done in this situation.

Now Other Choices:
There were two other options I could have done in the situation.

Ethical Definition:
Ethical is making the right decisions in lfe that do not hurt other people and are not morally reprehensible.


Ethical Definition:
Making decisions in life that don't harm others or reflectly poorly upon your judgement.


Other Choices:
I could have not gone out with my friends and lied to my parents, or stayed home.

Now Other Choices:
I could have not gone or gone. Two things.

Whose Opinions:
I considered what my friends would think if I told them I couldn't go out and my parents opinion if I got caught in the lie.

Ethical Definition:
To make decisions that don't harm others or reflect poorly on your character.


Other Choices:
I could have done two things. They are 1) Exactly what I did. or 2) Not help the old lady.

Now Other Choices:
There was really only one thing I could have done, and that was exactly what I did.

Ethical Definition:
Making decisions in life that do not harm others and are not morally reprehensible.


Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes, I wish I had talked to him instead of disappearing.

Ethical Definition:
acting in a fair and just manner towards others


Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes, I wish I had told him that he was scaring me.  I wish I had warned him that I was thinking about leaving.

Ethical Definition:
Acting in a fair and just manner towards others.


Whose Opinions:
My family's, the friend who loaned me her paper, the financial aid department


Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes, I wish I had asked from the money instead of taking it.

Whose Opinions:
My mother, father, sister and brother.  Also my grandparents, who were no longer living.

Ethical Definition:
To be fair and just, to treat others the way you want to be treated.


Now Other Choices:
There were numerous things I could have done differently.

Ethical Definition:
acting in a fair and just manner, treating others the way you want to be treated


Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes, I wish we had broken up before I went to college.  I wish I had told him I wanted to see other people.

Ethical Definition:
To be fair and just with others -- treat people the way you expect to be treated.


Other Choices:
There was not much of anything I could have done after the initial hesitation; there was too much occuring, time was moving fast.

Frequency of Recollection:
Quite often as I did the same job everyday. I even worked around this same airplane many times later, and with the same pilot, and was constantly reminded of my action. It was with me always for years.

Wish Done Differently:
Everytime I saw the plane, or even another plane, I reacted to the circumstance by being overly careful, never again allowing my actions to endanger the aircraft and the pilot.

Now Other Choices:
Actually, there was only one right action to take at the time of the episode; to signal the Director that an airplane was leaking hydralic fluid profusily by a careless action on my part.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
It has probably not occured to me very often in the ensuing years, probably very little in the latter years. It would take a event similar to the episode to bring it out I suppose;  maybe a scene of an airplane taxiing or something like that. In the past

Now Wish Done Differently:
So many years have gone by now. The plane and the pilot returned and suffered no mishap. I believe the reason for the longieivity of this memory was the initial fear I had done something that might possibly have caused a tragedy.

Ethical Definition:
the ability to recognize and act on morally correct information. To have a highly developed sense of right and wrong.


Other Choices:
There were probably many things I could have done other than what I did. Try and work out our differences, seek counceling, etc.

Frequency of Recollection:
Probaly quite often. It was a very disturbing thing, very selfish, very wrong.

Now Other Choices:
One, try and save my marraige. Two, get counceling, see a priest, talk to friends.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
It is always with me because of close relationship with my grown daughter now.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes, of course. I wish I had courage then. I wish I had some knowledge of the consequenses, all the damage that was done, especially to my son from that marraige.

Whose Opinions:
evryone's opinion, from every quarter. I ignorned all of them.

Ethical Definition:
morally cognizant of right and wrong behavior.


Other Choices:
I could have done teo very definite things.

Now Other Choices:
There are exactly two things I would have done differently.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I think about this often on a daily basis, as I am constantly exposed to it by being in contact with the person who figures in the story..


Other Choices:
Well, there was really only one thing other that I could have done, and that was not to cheat at cards.

Frequency of Recollection:
As I still knew the participants, in fact, saw them everyday, it was probably quite often

Wish Done Differently:
No, I regreted the incident but probably would have repeated it again.

Now Other Choices:
Again, I could have played by the rules. There are few options in a card game.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
It is difficult to say. It (the memory) is not high on the list of things I remember these days.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Yes, there is more to this than wishing for a defferent decision or action now. It may have colored my whole outlook on many things through the years, pehaps not in a good way.

Ethical Definition:
a moral state. A recognition of the correct, honest rather than the dishonest.


Ethical Definition:
One who does what is generally accepted in this society as the moral thing to do.


Ethical Definition:
Doing what you feel is right according to your morals or religious upbringing.


Ethical Definition:
Moral chices based on dictates of society.


Ethical Definition:
Person who makes what this society considers moral choices in behavior.


Ethical Definition:
Moral choices based on societal and perhaps religious mores.


Ethical Definition:
Moral choices as judged by societal mores.


Whose Opinions:
The opinion of the CHP officer that was pulling me over


Whose Opinions:
truthfully, I relayed this story to other people with glee.  I was completely unashamed.  I bragged about my good fortune.


Whose Opinions:
the sales people in the shop, if I got caught.  I had my story about forgetting to pay for the card and there it would be shuffled amongst the museum's brochures.  Nothing would have happened to me if my larceny was discovered.  I thought ahead of time of this.  And if the people there didn't believe me, I didn't care.  After paying their steep ticket price I had the stubs to wave in their noses.

Ethical Definition:
direct and simple rather than requiring explanation


Whose Opinions:
in life sometimes you just have to keep going and react, there was no time to think

Ethical Definition:
reacting in the most positive way you can at the time and given the circumstances


Now Wish Done Differently:
absolutely thrilled with my decision, kicking my heels pleased

Ethical Definition:
behaving in such a way which does not require explanation


Whose Opinions:
I thought of the opinion of the dummy who worked for the hotel and left a bag of money out in the open, forgetting it.  I thought this person would be grateful.  I thought he turned out to be much less appreciative and vociferous of this appreciation than I would have been.


Whose Opinions:
an opportunity presented itself to put myself in the position I wanted and felt I deserved as a good driver, namely another 4 years with a valid California driver's license.  It was worth the risk.  If I had been caught, I very well might have been invalidated and FORCED to pay again and come back.  I knew this and risked.  If I had been caught as a "cheater" I would not have given a flying fig as to what those in charge thought.  I just would have rued the time wasted and added expense.


Now Wish Done Differently:
Absolutely wish I'd handled it differently, unequivocally so.

Ethical Definition:
considering the total picture with a huge nod to what is important and beneficial in the long run


Whose Opinions:
I thought of my boss' take on what I had done.  Success in this endeavor was in fact dependant on her approval and endorsement.  It happened she did not endorse my course of action and was irked by it.

Ethical Definition:
behaving in such a way as to have nothing to report in the Catholic confessional to the Priest, but alas if we were perfect we'd be angels


Now Wish Done Differently:
could have been nicer and diffused with humor and kindness

Whose Opinions:
only the target of the comment ---> my Mom.

Ethical Definition:
same as before --- a course of action which one will be most satisfied with on one's deathbed


Now Frequency of Recollection:
lost count - though, it was not a moral issue


Other Choices:
one. i could have returned all of the calls very easily.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
whenever i am reminded of it which is often.  once every other month, or so


Other Choices:
I could have ASKED others for the money; my mother, my sister, a friend.

Ethical Definition:
one that has high, rational and moral standards and abides by them.


Now Wish Done Differently:
yes. i should have been there for the surgical procedure to remove the tumor.

Ethical Definition:
again, an ethical person has high, rational, and moral standards and can lead by example with them.


Wish Done Differently:
i haven't really thought about this particular memory until this study

Now Frequency of Recollection:
none. i all but forgot about this memory


Other Choices:
At the time this was the right thing to do, so there were no other choices to do it any other way.

Whose Opinions:
I considered my opinion.  Because at the time I wanted to share happiness, joy and peace on earth.

Ethical Definition:
ethical to me is in this case  honorable, giving, respectfull, responsive, humanitarian .


Wish Done Differently:
None. There was no other decision that I could make.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I think about my grandmother, but I do not think about the decision I made.

Ethical Definition:
An ethical person is a compassionate person - someone who thinks of others and tries to do the right thing.


Frequency of Recollection:
I don't really recall. Maybe a couple of times.

Whose Opinions:
First of all, it was not my money; and, secondly, I thought it would probably come out of the teller's paycheck.

Ethical Definition:
An ethical person does not try and take unfair advantage of another person or situation.


Now Other Choices:
One. I could have tried to trap her and take her to a Vet.  Having previously trapped her, when I had her spayed, it would have been more difficult or impossible to trap her again; and, it would have put her through much more trauma.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I thought about it a few times with pleasure and satisfaction that Tessa is doing well.

Whose Opinions:
A neighbor thought that I should just try and trap her and take her to a Vet; but, I chose to follow my intuition.

Ethical Definition:
Ethical to me is having morals and caring about other "feeling " beings whether human or animal .


Other Choices:
I could have asked my grandmother for the money and risked her saying no.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
I have not thought about it, apart from this study.

Whose Opinions:
My mother's opinion and my grandmother's opinion.

Ethical Definition:
A person who has a conscious and is sensitive and aware of the feelings of others, and the impact that their actions may have on others.


Other Choices:
One. I could have asked him for the sweather back,

Now Other Choices:
Two. I could have asked him for the sweather back; or, I could have just let him keep it.

Now Wish Done Differently:
Probably that I would not have taken it in the first place.

Whose Opinions:
I did not really think about other people's opinions.

Ethical Definition:
An ethical person is someone who when he


Whose Opinions:
Just in general, if the school found out that we had banded together to learn because we could not understand very much from the instructor.

Ethical Definition:
An ethical person is someone who at least the vast majority of the time abides by the rules.


Now Other Choices:
There are many other ways to spend ones time

Whose Opinions:
Probably only my friends or the police that might catch me


Now Wish Done Differently:
yes, only based on seeking a diplomatic solution to the financial dilema

Whose Opinions:
my boss, the promoter, the artists and the audience

Ethical Definition:
as before, a decision based on the utility of information or control, seeking to not take advantage of another


Whose Opinions:
Many public sector folks, industry colleagues and even family


Other Choices:
called them to say  even though i thought i could make it earlier, i really cannot make it by sunday.

Frequency of Recollection:
when i go to this store i feel a little embarrassed and hope they will trust me to keep my word.  and i make i t a point to think through when i would be returning the videos and say that.

Now Other Choices:
called them and let them know i was going to deliver the video later by 2 days.

Now Wish Done Differently:
just let them know i would return the video soon

Whose Opinions:
i did think about the store owners' opinion and needs - it is also an everyday situation for them.  so they probably do no hold their breath for every item to come back on the shelf exactly on time.

Ethical Definition:
doing the right thing under the circumstances.  not intending to hurt others substantially for a small ebnefit to me.  considering othes' needs as much as mne.  r


Now Other Choices:
2 may be - just let her go on and not say anything; leave making an excuse each time hope she takes the hint

Now Wish Done Differently:
yes.  i would make it very clear that i was not judging her response - just making it clear what is comfortable to me.  I would probably draw her attention to herself and her feelings that prompt her to sownplay this person. that seems even more difficult.  clearly she was hurting - i could not do anything to minimize her pain.

Whose Opinions:
the person who was being talked about - the owners daughter.  i wanted to be sensitive to ber feelings and i wanted to judge her for myself. not be biased

Ethical Definition:
in this situation influence what i can and leae alone what is not my business. whether  the person i am talking to i happy or unhappy in her interactins wth a third pary is soemthing i cnanot influence.  and it was not my business to get infvolved or jud


Other Choices:
may be a couple - say i was going to be back but would be busy for  a day or two.

Frequency of Recollection:
not much.  she realized i was busy and i have spent time wiith her when i could

Wish Done Differently:
i did not think about it until this question was put to me.  the option of telling her when i would be back and saying i would be busy for 2-3 days folloing my return, i would have said so.  i may have said i will get in touch with her when i could and w

Now Other Choices:
3 - as already mentioned i could have suggested i will call back soon after comng back; suggest a meeting later.

Now Frequency of Recollection:
only today on being asked the quesstion.  i did see this person after returning - thouh i did not tell her, id di contact her - sort of make u p for not speding enough time when i had to leave.

Now Wish Done Differently:
i have tekn car of it to my satisfaction by talking to her after returning from my trip.

Whose Opinions:
i was not influenced by any opinions i think.  feasible was more my concern.  i did the best i could under the circumstance.

Ethical Definition:
i do the best i can under the circumstances.  one makes mistakes without wanting to hurt self or others' feelings.  also one cannot satisfy every one all the time.


Other Choices:
just miss the performance.  that did not seem necessary since my supervisor felt it was fine for me to have enjoyed the perofrmance as long as i let him know.

Frequency of Recollection:
not many - it cleared up for me onece i informed my supervisor and it ws ok with him that we all enjoy the performance.  it was appreciation for the art he

Now Other Choices:
miss the moment or pay for it in advance.

Now Wish Done Differently:
no.  it was satisfactory to all concerned.

Whose Opinions:
I did not want to cheat.  so it was my own opion - am i cheating was my uesion to myself.  and i thought i was not cheating since i would have shared the facts with my supervisor if her were around.

Ethical Definition:
doing what is right under the circumstances with the information available and the options feasible.  deliberate choices rather than habitual choices as a matter of habit. taking care of consequences to self and all concerned.


Ethical Definition:
considers others peoples feelings,knows difference between right and wrong, logical thinker,


Ethical Definition:
good judgements, strong moralls, lots of respect


Ethical Definition:
consideration of others feelings and needs, not just your own,


Ethical Definition:
I see myself as an 'ethical person.' In this instance, it wasn't necessary to carry-out my decision. It was a kind gesture. I don't think there was an ethical dilemna here. The possibility for a negative was very low.


Ethical Definition:
To me, an 'ethical person' is someone who weighs the factors before making a judgement or taking an action and whose final decision


Now Frequency of Recollection:
A few times. Because I still have that jacket and I'm glad that I do!!! I like it!

Ethical Definition:
'Ethical' in this instance, would require abiding by certain rules regarding property so a person's decision and action could have negative consequences if the rules weren't followed.


Ethical Definition:
Well, as I stated before, I think 'ethical' behavior is thought-out and it can be selfish, but that could turn out to be a good outcome for all involved.


Ethical Definition:
To the largest degree possible, abiding by the morals and ethics prescribed by the society and culture in which one lives, and


Ethical Definition:
To the greatest degree possible, abides by the morals and ethics presribed  by the culture and society in which one lives, and


Ethical Definition:
As much as practicable, abiding by the morals and ethics prescribed by the society


Ethical Definition:
To the greatest degree possible, abiding by the morals and ethics prescribed by the society and culutre in which one lives and


Other Choices:
left him first, stayed and not cheated, tell him I wanted an open relationship


Frequency of Recollection:
At least twice a month so about 24 times a year.

Now Wish Done Differently:
I wouldn't have done anything different except maybe have been honest about it.


Frequency of Recollection:
every now and then, when her name comes up, abot three times a year

Ethical Definition:
means to have high standards for doing what is morally right


Whose Opinions:
the teacher who may have caught us, of course!

Ethical Definition:
morals, consideration for others, a feeling of rightousness, combined with a hint of guilt


Now Wish Done Differently:
possibly...on the question of whether I thought there was something morally better I should have done, I would have liked to see the option, "maybe"

Whose Opinions:
other moviegoers and employees of the theater


Ethical Definition:
doing the right thing for myself without harming anyone else


Frequency of Recollection:
10 or more because the other person pounded it into me

Wish Done Differently:
hundreds,  I ciouldn't stand being hounded for a mistake I made that was an accident and not all that bad

Now Frequency of Recollection:
at the time it was constant, every day for about a month, but not at all now

Whose Opinions:
no one's, I hardly knew the other people in the room

Ethical Definition:
in this particular case, ethical means feeling right about myself and atoning for any unintentional wrongdoing


# Session Three: Temporal Data

Original Text of Date Recollection:
this event occured appx. 1973,1974. I was about 14 or 15 years of age.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
1992, the summer June or July. I was  about early thirties


Original Text of Date Recollection:
in 1982 August I was about 22 years of age


Original Text of Date Recollection:
1982, I think.  I was around 32 years old.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
1984.  I was about 34 years old, I think.  Can't remember the month.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
During the Christmas holidays, I think.  Maybe 1981.  I would have been 31 years old.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
I might have been 13 or 14 years old at the time. That would have been 1963 or 1964.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
December 1970 3 weeks before Christmas, plus I had just turned 18 in November.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
occurs repeatedly -- from 1998 - present


Original Text of Date Recollection:
1973 - 1976   14 - 17 years old -- same event occurred repeatedly


Original Text of Date Recollection:
January, 1972, was when I burnt the teapot and kitchen counter.  The disconnection with my Australian host family has been ongoing since then, but especially since 1973, after that first year of letters was exchanged upon my return to America.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
I think I was 7 or 8 when the vent occurred.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
I became intimate with this married person in January 1974, about 10 days short of my twenty-first birthday.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
August 10, 1980 I got married, I was 17 years old.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
at the end of my relationship, 1985, and I was 22 years old.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
This occurred on or about May or June 2003.  I remember we were living in an apt. complex near downtown L.A. and at one time the gentleman we helped stayed over because it was too far for him to drive back to Hemet (near Palm Springs).


Original Text of Date Recollection:
1969 or 1970 - I wsa in elementary school


Original Text of Date Recollection:
I don't recall now any one particular instant, but I know it has happened on more than one occasion.  I think this particular experience must have happed either as a starving student or a struggling couple. -- Research Note this was estimated to be aroun


Original Text of Date Recollection:
This event occured around October,1999.I  was 38 years old.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
For many years now.  I guess he was diagnosed about 1990.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
Since I left my Federal job in August 2000 and the process is still going on today


Original Text of Date Recollection:
All the time.  This is an everyday thing.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
spring or summer of 1975  age 22 I think


Original Text of Date Recollection:
1972, '73, or '74. No idea what month. We were both in our mid-20s.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
Winter of about 1984 or '85. I was in my mid-30's.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
age sixteen. 1966, sometime in the school year.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
The murder was on June 18, 1984. The subsequent investigation and two federal trials occurred over the next 4 1


Original Text of Date Recollection:
Numerous times in the 1950s and '60s - all thru my childhood.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
Summer 1979 or '80. I was 29 or 30 years old.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
April 1965.   I was in elementary school.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
1982 that's when i knew the relatiionship was over and we were just hanging on


Original Text of Date Recollection:
we were in the 5th grade so we were probably 11 years old. sometime in the spring of 1960


Original Text of Date Recollection:
the last occurance was about Christmas time 2004


Original Text of Date Recollection:
from when i was 8 or 9 until i was 10 or 11


Original Text of Date Recollection:
Some time between 1989 and 1995. I would have been between 39 and 45 at the time.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
2004, possibly in the summetime, I was 39.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
Childhood in the 70's when I was young 11-17 aprox.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
from june of 1971 to december of the same year


Original Text of Date Recollection:
I stole books for a couple of years during my high school years...to be fair, I did return a few when I finished reading them


Original Text of Date Recollection:
this is a general comment I made about the act of lying, not a specific event


Original Text of Date Recollection:
I was born in 1968 and this happened somewhere between 1982-85 I don't have a recollection of the exact months when I'd take money since I didn't take it every week but only as much and as often as I thought fair and truly needed. I used the word stole b


Original Text of Date Recollection:
Subject said he was six years old when telling story even though his note during session three said the date was 1965 or 1966; 1970 is more likely correct.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
Discovered pregnany late in January. Aborted in early February.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
Somewhere in the second half of the school year (March-June), 1080.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
Last fall, in 2003; the packing was done this summer (August 2004).


Original Text of Date Recollection:
In the fall or winter of 2000-2001, while I was back in school, working toward my degree (again).


Original Text of Date Recollection:
From the time I was 22 (1984) until I left in January 1995; over a period of 13 years.  His horrible behavior started aroung 1986.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
August 2004 (this year), around the 2nd or 3rd week of the year, on a Sat. or Sunday.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
This has happen various times over the past 10 years.  I am 55 now.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
paper writing for pay frshman year of college fall 1977


Original Text of Date Recollection:
cheating in high schoool my sophmore year in hs 1975


Original Text of Date Recollection:
33-to 28 years ago -- Research Note: This was estimated to 30 years ago for temporal data analysis.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
November 1977, I think I'm sixteen years old.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
November, 1987 or 1988, I think I'm about 29 years old.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
I was 7 years old, and it happened around September 1968.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
This event occured during the 90's. I don't have a definite date because it happened more that once during that time period.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
This event occured around the spring of 1982.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
This event happened around the spring of 1995.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
This event happened during the early 70's.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
This event happened around November or December of 1989


Original Text of Date Recollection:
This occured in the fall of 1994. I had just moved together with this person that I mentioned before.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
This event occured around the fall of 2000. She had a previous fall many years earlier, so I'm not sure which incident I was recalling. Both times, I nursed her while she recovered.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
1973, maybe the end of May.     11 yrs old.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
I have lived in this building since I left the battered womens shelter in December of 2003.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
I was in a 16 year relationship with a man whom I was married too.  During that time, I raized 7 children who were not mine.  He was very physically, mentally and emotionally abusive.  Age was from 29 to 44.  Then I got involved with a man who was also a


Original Text of Date Recollection:
At the end to the marriage about 5 years ago


Original Text of Date Recollection:
circa 1954-55. I was four or five years of age.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
I believe about 1960. I was about 10 years of age.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
Over the period of time from 1958 through 1966. Between the ages of 8 and 16.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
I DONT REMEMBER AT ALL THE DATE, BUT TO THE BEST OF MY ABILITY IT WAS AROUND THE TIME OF MY MOTHERS ILLNESS AND ALL I KNOW IS THAT I COULD NOT PUT OR EVEN DEAL WITH ANYTHING ELSE ON MY PLATE.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
I TOTALLY DONT REMEMBER AT ALL THE DATE.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
NOT SURE OF THE MONTH OR YEAR. BUT I THINK I WAS ABOUT 40 YEARS OLD


Original Text of Date Recollection:
AS CLOSE AS I CAN REMEMBER IS MAYBE IN SUMMER SESSION JULY 2001.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
I don't remember the month and year.  I recall that I was working for myself from home and had stopped to go tot the market.  I was probably about 31 years old at the time.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
I don't remember the month or year.  I was approx. 34 or 35 years of age at the time.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
When I was a littlegirl -- Research Note: This was estimated to the age of 7 years old.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
I don't really remember.  I believe I was in my late 20's in age


Original Text of Date Recollection:
This has been happening since about the second year I was married.  Because the first year we were married.  We had lot's of money coming in and then my husband lost his company.  So there we were over night with alot less income.  That was almosr 16 yea


Original Text of Date Recollection:
often.  since married over the past 12 years


Original Text of Date Recollection:
I'll say september 1989, and I was probbly 36 years old.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
this occurred in august of 2004, this year, about 3 months ago. My age was 51. My age now.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
This event will be happeningin about seven days on Nov 24 2004 and  again on Dec 24 2004-I've been doing this for about 4 years.  I guess I started this tradition when I was 48 years old.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
This would have been July 2004.  I was, and still am, 53.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
I have been doing the harp therapy for the preemies for one year.  I did it for drug and alcohol accicts for four years.  From age 49 to 53.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
Summertime I was probably about 5 ( 1956)


Original Text of Date Recollection:
I was in college circa 1970-73 so I was 18, 19, and 20


Original Text of Date Recollection:
I was probably in my twenties. circa 1973


Original Text of Date Recollection:
Probably in the summer. Circa 1958 which would make me about 7 years old.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
1954 and I was a 2nd grader, about 5 or 6 yrs.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
Ongoing for the last 8 years , My age 8 years ago would be 49 yrs


Original Text of Date Recollection:
July, 1963 or 1964. I was about 6 years old.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
This was approximatley in July 2000 I was  35 years


Original Text of Date Recollection:
October, 1978  I was 14 years or 15 years


Original Text of Date Recollection:
This event occurred in the 80's (198_?)  I was between ages 25 and 26 years old


Original Text of Date Recollection:
This occurred when I was a teenager, approximately around the summer time on 1979 and 1980, June 1979 through August 1979 then again June 1980 through August 1980 I believe at this time I was 17 years old the first summer, then 18 years old the second su


Original Text of Date Recollection:
This event occurred about April, 1999  I was 35 years old when this occurred


Original Text of Date Recollection:
I believe this occurred in 1972 or 1973 during the school year I will say Septemeber of 1972 and I was about 9 years old


Original Text of Date Recollection:
February 12, 2004, is the date my father died, I was 51 yrs old at the time.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
Maybe 1961, I think I was about 9 years old.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
My father in law died on Jan 30, 2004.  My father died February 12, 2004, I was 51 years old.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
A few months ago. Approximately May of 2004.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
I don't remember the month or months - It was approximately 1964.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
it was in college, my junior year at Pepperdine, so I was about 21 years old, 1985 around June or so


Original Text of Date Recollection:
1967 have no idea of the month, I was 3 years old


Original Text of Date Recollection:
1982 August the start of the school year (college) and I was 18


Original Text of Date Recollection:
approximatey January of 1998 and I would have been 37


Original Text of Date Recollection:
just a couple of weeks before the study when i mentioned this situation


Original Text of Date Recollection:
about a year ago.  may be october, november last year.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
1981-present day -- Research Note: This was recorded as 1981 for temporal data analysis. It is about a continuous lie that started in 1981.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
In the 1980's. Maybe in 1983 while I was in college.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
all my life, the last time probably August 2004 -- Research Note: This was recorded as 2004.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
over the years, maybe in 21002 the last time


Original Text of Date Recollection:
since april 2003 and at varying times in the past


Original Text of Date Recollection:
July, 1997 (perhaps Spring, summer, 1997)


Original Text of Date Recollection:
March, 1968 (or so, whenever Achievement tests for new college freshmen (freshpeople!) are given)


Original Text of Date Recollection:
I think it was 1995. I have no idea what month it was. I was probably 38.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
Probably 1991. I have no idea what month.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
Probably 1969. I have no idea what month.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
I started spying on him in August 1999; I spied on him for over a year.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
last three months of 1992 and first three months of 1993


Original Text of Date Recollection:
November 1987, I was approximately 36 years old


Original Text of Date Recollection:
This event occurred the last two Christmas' in a row. Specifically in December of 03' and December of 02' approximately the 23rd through the 27 of December. I was 42 and 41 years old.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
This event occurred when I was in 6th grade.  I was approximately 12 years old in 1973.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
In high school. I was probably 16 and it was possibly May of 1979.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
When I was in 6th grade. I was approximately 11 years old. This was probably in 1973


Original Text of Date Recollection:
This event occured when I was in approximately 4th or 5th grade. That would have me approximately 9 or 10 years old in 1973 or so.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
When I was approximately 27 years old. That was 1988. Don't know what month.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
This event occurred in approximately September of 04' and in July of 04'. I was 42.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
This happened when I was approximately 8 years old. This was in 1969.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
This event occurred when I was in about 7th or 8th grade. That was approxiimately 1974


Original Text of Date Recollection:
To the best of my knowledge, this event occurred in approximately 1979


Original Text of Date Recollection:
During the summer of1962 or 1963. I was 19 or 20 years of age.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
A period extending from December 1984 to March 1985. I was 42 years old.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
The year was around 1975-1976, during the summer. I was 32 or 33 years of age.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
October '77 is my best guess.  I was @ 19 years old.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
Winter of 1978 or 1979.  I was 16 or 17.


Original Text of Date Recollection:
Mid-August, 2001. I was 39 about to turn 40


